Category Archives: Motivation & Self-help

How Much do You Spend: “Developing Your Inner World” vs “Enhancing Your External Appearance”?

Most of us fear the declination or deterioration of our physical appearance (our body) and will do anything to prevent it from happening, even if it means sacrificing our inner world which is a major pillar in our life.

How pathetic: we care much more about the state and level of perfection of our physical bodies but don’t care a bit or as much for our inner world, a great gift that can guide our soul, our eternal spirit.

Although both reality and experience prove that, without the spirit, the body would be dead and remain dead, a good number of us behave as if the spirit would be dead without the body. In fact, we treat the body as if it is the beginning and end of life. Well, reality proves the direct opposite.

Our spending habits—which include the energy, time, and money we invest in certain activities—reveal our true priorities and show where the bulk of our allegiance clearly lies.

Make a quick comparison between how much (time, money, and concentration) you spend on your external appearance, and how much you also expend on developing your inner world. Is the ratio or proportion between them healthy?

Or, is the ratio between the two so unhealthy that you find it difficult to justify spending on personal growth (developing your inner world) but find it easy to invest everything in your superficial external appearance?

How would it help in the long run if you successfully work on your external appearance, perfect it and become full of it, but you—on the other hand—remain shallow or empty on the inside (the inner world) because you were complacent or didn’t work on it a bit or nearly as much?

Considering how much weight our inner world actually holds in the scheme of life, it sounds odd, but not surprising, that many people around the world spend countless amounts of time, money, and concentration on improving their external appearance through the use of cosmetics, supplements, expensive clothes, plastic surgery, and other procedures.

On the other hand, the same people spend little to nothing of their time, money, and concentration on improving their inner world, talents, and abilities which can greatly direct and define their destinies.

To avoid blips in destiny, it’s important to spend your time, money, and concentration on developing your inner world as much as or more than you would on your external appearance or physical body.

Isn’t it wiser to spend time more developing self-restraint against unnecessary spending, than to spend it on feeding or excesses without restraint, only to later end up struggling to fix all issues that are products of unnecessary spending?

In many instances, instead of buying another expensive pair of jeans, is it not more intelligent and more profitable to spend time and money on an inexpensive book that can lighten up your path and drastically change your inner world and life.

Nobody may even notice how well you are developing internally, but it doesn’t matter because, in the long run, everyone who really takes notice will eventually realize that you’re more valuable than someone who is always noticed and praised for buying new clothes, even though they are deteriorating on the inside as they continue on the path of inner complacency, instead of following the path of self-growth.

Honesty is the Best Policy Over the Long term Where Truth Always Emerges and Stands Tall

Imagine what a world of honesty would mean for everyone, including the world itself. Unfortunately, one of the greatest challenges for the self-discipline of many people is to stop lying—it is difficult to abide by the resolution to be honest and stop lying.

Many of us lie whenever we encounter opportunities to do so, wherever we go, and in whatever we do. Lying is so common that it seems it’s socially allowable to lie a little (telling a white lie) in order to make one’s self, resume, finances, height, or shape look different—or even better—than it really is, especially on the internet (personal blogs, dating sites, job sites, etc.), and even offline—in person.

Truth hardly shows up over the short term. Even when it has not yet shown up, of what benefit is it gain the whole world by being dishonest in the short term, but eventually lose everything valuable over the long term where the truth always emerges and finds out dishonesty?

History has lots of tales about it: the trails of dishonesty that have been causing so many problems and ills in the beautiful garden called society. Honesty and truth—strong ingredients of integrity—have always resided predominantly in virtuous people; on the other hand, both have been seriously lacking in people who are the opposite—immoral, mischievous, etc.

If you’re under the temptation to sacrifice honesty on the plate of short-term gains, recall and activate and radiate the old saying: “honesty is the best policy” over the long-term, the permanent, and eternal.

Honesty is one of the best pillars that can strengthen or establish your integrity, especially over the long term where the truth always emerges and stands tall in a manner that might not always be possible over the short term.

It is one thing to be honest and deny yourself of something valuable; it is a completely different thing to be dishonest when you think that dishonesty would make you look better, only to eventually find out over the long term that it has destroyed you or your relationship with someone whom you cherish deeply.

So, when the truth emerges and stands tall at the end of the day—over the long term—will you have any sense of honesty left in you? If you won’t, then unfortunately, whatever you have left will likely eat away at your conscience.

Advice

Not only should honesty be exhibited because it is the right thing to do; but it should also be exhibited because the truth will eventually find a way out. Where will you stand when the truth shows up and beams for the whole world to see?

Lastly: being honest doesn’t mean you should turn your life into an open book and allow everyone to know everything about you. As honest as any society would like and expect us to be, we have the right to keep some things to ourselves in a wise manner.

Optimism can Improve Your Ability to See the World in Brighter Colors

Oftentimes, life is very difficult, with no roller coaster and no fun. I mean it! The adversities of life sap lots of energy out of people, steal their destinies, and leave them in hopeless situations that can’t support optimism, no matter how much it [optimism] may be.

In the midst of it all, where does your allegiance lie? Where do you focus when the chips are down, when you hit low? Does your allegiance lie on positives or negatives—in optimism or pessimism? It might not be wrong to assume that you’re quite unfortunate if your allegiance lies in pessimism, in negativity.

But it might also not be wrong to assume that you have the right to place your allegiance on negatives. Why? Because optimism is not for everybody. Again, why? Because it doesn’t work for everybody.

But, despite the fact that it doesn’t work for everybody, it is equally true that a healthy dose or practice of optimism can make can you see the world in brighter colors, very brilliant colors, even when the going gets tough and the world turns upside down.

The Bible and history have proven again and again that, “as a man thinks in his heart, so he is”. The same is applicable to optimism: as a man thinks about optimism, he actually tends to become optimistic, until he actually lives optimistically and in surprising abundance.

It’s our duty to keep our hearts optimistic and guard them against all forms of pessimism

Proverbs 4: 23 says, “keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it [are] the issues of life. I now say something similar to you: keep your heart optimistic, for out of it comes abundance and scarcity which are two of the many pair of opposites of life.

It’s our duty to feed our minds with positive or optimistic information and experiences and build a mentality that expects the best from life, regardless of how and where the tide is turning for good or bad, better or worse. It’s our duty to focus on the invincibility of GOD our Creator and the great powers He has placed in His universe, in life.

It is true that being optimistic or practicing optimism won’t necessarily make you become completely invulnerable to negative feelings or pessimism—far from it. For, as long as we remain alive, we will likely continue to be at war with negative dark forces which easily influence most people’s minds, tricking and training them to always think negatively.

The good news is that we are at liberty to stop or protect ourselves from this trend by meditating on or practicing optimism and always opening up or surrounding ourselves with positive input by reading inspirational, motivational, or positive books, watching positive visuals, listening to positive audios, etc. Feed your mind every day, and a sip of optimism a day will slowly drive away bits and bits of pessimism every day.

No matter how bad your situation is, you can start from somewhere, and if you are self-disciplined enough to guard or keep your heart diligently, after some time period you will come to realize that you have been gradually and increasingly igniting optimism and the strong positive feeling that, regardless of what is happening around you, things will eventually turn out well and the best will come your way.

By gradually strengthening this feeling, you can actually draw in a larger-than-life reality of it. Even before becoming an expert at honing and radiating optimism, sipping optimism each day can greatly improve the way you see the world and eventually make you see it in much brighter colors than you ever expected.

Optimism can have a long-term positive impact on your emotions, mentality, faith, and destiny. An optimistic or positive attitude is essential for people who want to build self-discipline and establish a culture or brand that stands out. What’s the point of being self-disciplined enough to deny yourself instant gratification if you are not optimistic that you’ll achieve your goals in the future?

Whenever the tide is rough and everywhere looks gloomy and negative and all hope seems to be lost, that’s the time we—especially those who suffer from pessimism—really need inspiration or positive input to see the world in the brighter colors of our inner vision.

The brighter colors may be hidden, but they are there, waiting to be turned on. That’s what they were made for: to be turned on at will. Unfortunately, many of us are not aware of, haven’t discovered, or have lost our ability to be optimistic enough to save our emotions, nerves, faith, future, and destiny.

Easy steps to become optimistic—and even more optimistic

1. Thank GOD or Life for all the things you have received since the day you were born empty-handed. Be content with what you have and aspire higher, but learn to express gratitude for what you already have.

If you are not content or happy with what you have at the moment, it will be difficult or impossible for you to be satisfied with what you will receive tomorrow.

2. Practice and make it a habit not to entertain negative experiences and thoughts. Only entertain them if you are looking for opportunities and lessons. It’s actually possible to turn some negative experiences around and achieve greatness from them.

An experience may be bad for you only if view it as such. As we tend to look more at negatives for problems, we should learn to also look at negatives for lessons or opportunities to become better, change our lives, and give them positive meanings.

3. Open up or surround yourself with positive input. We cannot over-stress this point enough. The truth is that if you only entertain negative thoughts, read fear-mongering news, and hang out with pessimistic people from any background, you’ll likely have a hard time practicing or exhibiting optimism.

I encourage you to read inspirational, motivational, or positive books, watch positive visuals, listen to positive audios, etc. And always remember that a sip of optimism a day will slowly continue to drive away bits and bits of pessimism every day.

Often, the Line Between Failure & Success is so Thin that We Hardly Know When We’re Right There

In a world of difficulties, hardships, challenges, and hustles, being a genius or achieving success often comes by making consistent efforts. But while making those consistent efforts, many people fail or fall off the cliff when they get to the tipping point which, if they could just add a bit more effort, would produce large effects and great success.

The thing is that, after giving their all, so many people fail to recognize when they’ve reached the tipping point or line between failure and success. The next time you feel like giving up, even though you’ve invested a ton of time, patience, money, and whatnot, persuade yourself to push a little bit longer because you might just be on the thin line between failure and success.

Every time we’ve tried and tried and tried and gone some distance, chances are that success is just around the corner, but we fail to recognize it because of a few or countless reasons: the line between failure and success is so thin that we barely realize that we’ve reached it or even passed it.

It’s unfortunate how lots of people have thrown up their hands or given up at a time when a little more effort, a little more patience, and a little more hustle would achieve the success they’ve been craving for since forever.

If we are not careful, the more the tide of challenges clears out, the more our impatience would wear thin, and we may hardly know when we’re just an inch away from success: sometimes, our prospects may seem darkest when they’re right there at the turning point to success—a point where many fail to recognize that a little more effort and persistence could turn hopeless failure into glorious success.

Failure only arrives eventually when we give up and decide not to continue trying any longer. Whenever you reach a point where start believing that you can no longer go on, then your self-discipline has begun to run out of gas; rather than throwing up your hands in defeat, move the opposite direction and persist just a little bit longer because success could just be around the corner.

Humility Helps to Maintain Self-control

Humility or humbleness goes a considerable or long way in helping to keep our self-control or self-discipline in check! To have better control over our urges, it’s important not to take our self-discipline for granted.

Humility can be easily decimated by arrogance, and vice-versa: assuming an invincible lifestyle or filling up the heart with arrogance or false pride on one end, could gradually reduce or completely erase any humility or humbleness we might have on the other end.

Arrogant people and those who think they are invincible would, more often than not, want to test themselves and their willpower unnecessarily in order to prove how unbeatable they are. In many cases, testing some waters unnecessarily, eventually leads to downfall.

History and research show that arrogant leaders and successful people who are filled with self-pride had:

  • the tendency to overestimate their capabilities
  • an inflated belief in their self-control, and
  • exhibited controlling impulsive behaviors on the people and activities under their control.

By ramping up their egos, they overexposed themselves to temptations and failures: warmongering leaders put themselves in situations that ousted them from power; recovering smokers put themselves in situations that tempted them to smoke; recovering patients put themselves in situations that made them lose their health; etc.

Lack of humility and overinflating the ego increased the risk of a relapse and led to decline and ultimate ruin. Actually, pride goes before a fall. So, one really needs to be aware of pride.

Our self-discipline is like prosperity. It’s possible for it to stay with us for a long time, but it’s equally possible for it to disappear if we don’t keep our humility in check or tweak it the right way!

Moderation Shouldn’t Serve as an Excuse Not to Do or Be Your Best

Whenever we make firm resolutions to develop ourselves or achieve our goals, we might have the tendency or be tempted to push ourselves way beyond our limit which is the maximum we are capable of doing or producing around a particular time.

Although it is true that our ambitiousness is a virtue we must use to the maximum or extreme, it is equally true that there is some danger involved in doing things to the extreme and going from one extreme to another.

Therefore, we must be prudent on how we handle or use moderation: if you’ve been struggling to work for one or two hours per day, suddenly forcing yourself to work for sixteen hours per day will likely not end with the desired outcome. In fact, it could end in a breakdown or wear out.

If you’re struggling to restrict your appetite by eating once a day or per two days, then suddenly imposing a 7-day fast on yourself would e stressful and likely not end with the desired outcome.

Find somewhere between the extremes—“the middle way”. Stick to it and work on continuously increasing it over time and when you look back, you will see progress. In fact, based on the results you achieve, you could decide whether to still stretch your maximum, your extreme, or your limit!

As much as it is advisable for everybody to push their limit and explore greater boundaries, we don’t need to put our lives, health, emotions, or environment at risk just because we want to achieve good or great results.

Subjecting yourself to extreme hardships could have some merits, but it may not always bring the desired sustainability we’d like to have over the long term. In fact, it could be downright dangerous to subject ourselves to certain extremes!

Using the extreme approach over the long term could wear you and your life out without allowing you to get close to your goals. In whatever you do, don’t waste time hanging around; at the same time, don’t become busy to such an extent that you’re literally sucking the life out of your own life!

Remember to apply moderation in all things—including moderation itself. And if you need to apply a more extreme approach, do so for a fair or short period of time, and in a way that could be beneficial to your goals.

Now let’s take a look at moderation from a different perspective: whenever people use it as an excuse to not do their best: whenever people make mediocrity out of moderation and deprive themselves of doing or being at their best.

Moderation is key but it can go bad if one forgets that going for little or much less can be a bad thing, and going to the extreme can also be a bad thing. Always remember that you can find somewhere between the extremes—“the middle way”—if you really wish to.

For instance, some moderation would be good if you’re trying to lift a heavy weight that you can barely lift off the floor. But what good does it serve you when you let moderation make you become comfortable with consistently lifting something that’s as light as a feather?

If you really want to work on your muscles, what’s valuable in bragging about lifting something that’s almost weightless? Why make mediocrity out of moderation and allow certain levels of moderation to limit your growth?

Beware of any type of moderation that allows you to stick to easy things that are well within grasp and, by so doing, doesn’t allow you to really grow. Furthermore, beware of any type of moderation that forces you to do something that you can barely do.

Generally, any moderation that lowers your standards could end up covering you with mediocrity: a male athlete who thinks that exercising once a week is great—because most of his friends exercise only once a month—will most likely stop challenging himself and become mediocre because of his misuse of moderation.

Although it can be important to inspire yourself by making comparisons with other people, it may be even more important to compare the state of your present self with that of your past self.

For instance, if today you’re still making the same output you were making a year ago when you started producing something, then perhaps you’ve not used moderation in a good or right way. It may be that you have even substituted moderation with self-congratulation.

The Earlier You Act, the Sooner You’ll be Through

Procrastination only stacks loads and even loads upon loads on us. Procrastination gives some people fewer loads to carry and some other people more, depending on their choices and actions.

Generally, many people have truckloads upon truckloads to carry and never seem to make headway with their duties and realize their dreams.

Only a few people are organized enough to act early or earlier on their stuff and get things done sooner—or even much sooner than usual! Yes, when it comes to getting stuff done on time, it is not compulsory or even advisable to copy exactly what other people are doing; however, it is admirable to imitate people in order to avoid procrastination at home, work, or anywhere in any endeavor.

If you really want to tackle procrastination effectively, the moment you realize you’re wasting time avoiding work or doing nothing, especially when you have a ton to do, immediately stop whatever unproductive thing you’re doing and just start acting or working.

“Thoughts” and the process of thinking usually get the most out of the people who lose to procrastination because, as they allow themselves to ponder over “starting” or “not starting” something, their resistance to “starting” increases, and sooner or later, this resistance to starting overwhelms and overcomes them, and they end up achieving nothing valuable or productive for a whole day, week, month, or significant period of time!

The trick of acting—instead of thinking (pondering)—works better than thinking

Acting early or earlier beats all unforeseen or hidden blocks. On the other hand, thinking or pondering sets us up for potential challenges that may overwhelm us, even when we’ve made a strong resolution to act on stuff earlier and get it done sooner.

“Acting early” is a trick that works because it ensures you maximum resistance against procrastination “at the onset”. It is crucial to make use of such a level of maximum resistance at the onset because the more we think about getting started and don’t act early enough, the more we become sluggish, allow time to pass by, and make it easier to procrastinate instead of actually getting started.

Once you always resist that urge or temptation “not to start” and you actually start performing a task—no matter how unpleasant it is—then you stand to gain some momentum and make it easier to start tasks and get them done instead of giving up and procrastinating.

Whenever you find yourself resisting or hesitating instead of acting early enough or earlier, then act immediately and deal with stuff early and “once and for all”. The earlier you act, the sooner you’ll be done with whatever stuff you act on.

An added advantage of acting early is that it creates more time to focus on new/other stuff and prevents thoughts of “unfinished business” from creeping up and rolling up and down the back of your mind.

Each little act of acting early can help you develop or establish and maintain a habit of choosing to start stuff early instead of allowing all types of stuff—easy, hard, etc.—to accumulate over the passage of time, as cobwebs do in a beautiful house.

If you adopt a habit or work ethic of acting early on stuff, you’ll eliminate or greatly reduce the impact of procrastination on your activities, goals, dreams, and life, and have more time and tranquillity at your fingertips.

The Hidden Value in Your Difficulties

Nowadays, people like dodging difficulties! In fact, it seems dodging difficulties or “looking for a way out” is the fastest growing norm of our time, especially as technology, AI, robots, and countless applications are always around the corner, waiting to be summoned and used to achieve results, quickly and effortlessly.

Although it may be pleasant to desire and experience only easy successes, if easy successes are the only successes you want, you’ll end up generally expecting quick, effortless results. This develops or strengthens a mentality that is weak against difficulties, and it can’t support resilience, patience, and some other important qualities that are crucial to survival.

A mentality that expects quick results—but is weak against the difficulties and the uncertainties of life—would also be unreliable when life hits you hard with challenges or difficulties; in addition, you’ll likely not have the mental toughness to withstand and overcome future difficulties, maybe even the small ones!

Although there is a big difference in value between easy successes and tough successes—which may even require sweat, tears, and blood—does it mean you should accomplish your goals by using only the most difficult successes, and neglecting or rejecting the easier or easiest ones?

Of course not! However, it’s important to note that you won’t stand much to benefit in the school of life if you deliberately avoid all difficulties without at least giving a thought or more about the potential values they may possess.

And yes, it may feel like a smart move to evade difficulties all the time. But the long term impact could end up limiting your potential and making you less potent enough to handle all possible scenarios of life, which include all positive and negative experiences of life.

Life contains a ton of load that we must carry, and the load can take a toll on anyone who is not fit enough to withstand its difficulties—not only its ease which, as we all know, can never be a problem!

Because we all most likely have big, ambitious, and demanding long term goals where our level and power of self-discipline grows strong and shines more in difficulties than in ease—this instills the greatest feeling of having accomplished something worth doing.

Without Patience, Even Millions of Resources & Sacrifices Would Take You Nowhere

Generally, no matter how urgently any pregnant woman wants a child, she has to be patient for nine months to have one. No matter how brilliant a college student is, he or she must spend at least the duration of their course before receiving a certificate and exiting school.

Patience is a great virtue we need most times in combination with self-discipline. For without patience, even millions of resources and sacrifices won’t help us achieve certain goals, especially long-term ones.

If you really want to accomplish long-term goals, be ready to subdue any feelings of instant expectation—exercise patience! Self-discipline might be a necessary additive to keep patience in check as you wait for days, weeks, months, or years to achieve a big result.

Although sometimes you can force results more quickly—by working harder or being more diligent—in many instances, great or impactful results take time and there is just no way on Earth to cut corners or rush to completion.

No matter how many resources you invest or sacrifices you make, without patience and probably self-discipline, you’ll just end up getting nowhere. Like undergoing necessary stages of development or growing from a teenager to an adult, some things only follow a natural order that we can’t control.

If you fail to recognize this and the things that need patience and cannot be rushed, you might not be able to muster and exert enough patience; even when you apply some patience, you might end up misapplying the self-discipline needed to keep your patience in check.

As a result, you might end up achieving nothing instead of eventually achieving something or anything. For example, there is a natural limit to the quantity of fat our bodies can burn per week without breaking down our muscles.

But if we try to rush the natural process by starving ourselves, then the most likely outcome is that we would end up not only going back to square one—or the land of nowhere—but we would put on some additional body fat or weight.

Even with immaterial things such as developing and controlling our minds to eventually radiate optimism, we can’t force ourselves to achieve results overnight.

Transforming or rewiring your mind and brain takes time, and no matter how much sacrifice, time, and resources you spend practicing meditation or reading books about mind or emotional control, you can’t evade a process that requires time.

Lack of sufficient patience might even cause you to lose faith in something that other people have tried and achieved results by remaining steadfast and applying patience.

Generally, people who have taken years or decades to develop a certain habit or trait shouldn’t expect to reverse it completely within a few days, weeks, months, or years.

Approach life with the belief and mentality that there is a process and time for everything and you will always do your best; but in so doing, you won’t allow impatience and its children—discouragement, frustration, etc.—to wear you down if the process is slow or moves slowly.

It would be as meaningless as a pregnant woman who is complaining that she hasn’t conceived a child, even when she is fully aware that her pregnancy hasn’t lasted up to nine months.

How do You Garden Your Own Self-Control?

Self-control is very crucial in many areas of life. Without it, we can become slaves to the things that are around us or the things that control us: we can find ourselves controlled and overwhelmed by food, money, lust, our words, material and immaterial excesses, etc.

Being able to control ourselves empowers us to control potential and actual material and immaterial excesses or overindulgences. But it’s not so easy for a lot of people to exert sufficient self-control, the type that can put more power in their hands and even make them unshakeable.

The way we handle our respective self-control meters determines our individual results in many areas of life. There is an innate and sensible reason why people agree with this popular saying: “The way you make your bed is the way you sleep in it”. It is rightly so when it comes to self-control.

The Christian Bible (New Living Translation version) even stresses the point much better: Proverbs 25:28 states that “a person without self-control is like a city with broken down walls”.

How many times have we thrown our self-control under the bus and exposed ourselves to negligence, failure, and losses that were not necessary? How many times have we failed to refrain from doing things that are obviously killing us or hindering our chances?

Generally speaking, what type of gardener are you for your own self-control? How do you garden it? In other words, if your self-control was a plant, how well or badly is your self-control performing based on how you’ve been cultivating it over the past years—or since forever?

If it were possible to cultivate self-control without putting in some resolve or effort, then everybody would possess it. Unfortunately or fortunately—depending on your point of view—self-control is more like a plant that needs to be consistently cared for and cultivated, if not, it would wither away and leave you defenseless.

The people who have strong self-control are attentive to their “self-control”. They make sure that they take care of it properly and it acquires everything it needs to flourish and remain healthy.

Think about growing or sustaining your self-control in the same way: you must be prepared to “will” yourself and, in any situation that could lead to great results, prioritize long-term results over instant gratification.

When it comes to self-control, many people have the tendency to evade all kinds of things that can create discomfort and require our maximum effort.

Many people aren’t successful in their personal growth because they don’t exert enough self-control over their love for food, laziness, wasting countless hours in front of television, spending money on things that are unnecessary, and cutting corners anywhere possible.

If you want to acquire sufficient self-control or strengthen it much further, then get ready to neglect or put away many things; this may result in people ridiculing you, frowning upon you, misunderstanding you, and even calling you “weird”.

It can be discouraging and difficult to face adversity from people, family, and friends as you strive to improve yourself by exerting self-control. Whenever you face such adversity and feel out of sync with the rest of the world, remember that there are other people going through the same situation like you. Some will succeed and set the tone, while others won’t!

Forging a path is a responsibility that the vast majority of people would like to avoid. Remember that whenever you’re stumbling, failing, and need to straighten things out by exerting self-control, you’re forging your own path which will never be the same as that of other people.

Acting a Fool to Fool Your Way to Success

During the search for success, one aspect that many people frequently overlook or undervalue is the fact that if we wish to move higher up in life and rise above mediocrity, then we must be ready to learn and grow by making a fool out of ourselves every now and then.

It’s difficult or almost impossible to accurately predict the future. Regardless, we need to make decisions—the results which we may either live to be happy with, live to be okay with, or live to regret.

Even when everything convinces us that our decisions would work out well, not all of them actually end up working well. Once anybody is ready to step outside their comfort zone and fool around to acquire more knowledge and develop, they will develop an intuitive understanding of the difference between what works and what doesn’t work.

This would lead to discovery of answers people don’t have or know. Time always proves that we may need to act a fool—not purposely or intentionally—before we become wise and successful in life. Yes, we may need to fool our way to success.

No one said it better than Dan Waldschmidt: “You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have”.

You’ve probably gotten into a new environment and told everyone about your plan to build a big business, but unfortunately—despite your level of education, intelligence, effort, enthusiasm, and the professionals at your disposal—you couldn’t get the job done.

You couldn’t realize your aspirations. You couldn’t deliver the impressive performance you dreamed of and promised people. Why? Because you quit after eventually losing all your money and savings.

Notwithstanding, despite investing in a business and foolishly or unintentionally losing all your money, you may have learned some priceless lessons and gained great wisdom alongside the obvious disappointment.

In a world where we are born as infants destined to act a fool or make mistakes and grow or mature, it is natural and quite normal to fool or fail our way to success.

Those who think otherwise tend to do anything possible to avoid opportunities for learning and growth, especially when the opportunities have the potential to become riddled by errors and mistakes or susceptible to somewhat foolish or naive decisions and failures.

Although acting a fool, humiliation, failure, and rejection are anything but pleasant, in a world of challenges, growth, and development, such negatives end up making some people become successful and everything but failure itself.

The ability to act a fool and withstand failure and rejection—while continuously pressing on without giving up—is one of the major differences between successful people and people who fail to realize their dreams.

As disagreeable as it sounds, occasionally acting a fool can be part of the process of becoming successful. Fortunately, the more you expose yourself to failure, foolhardiness, rejection, or humiliation, the more comfortable you will feel when handling the issues they create.

The Benefits of Preventing Luxuries from Becoming Necessities

Yes, it may be important to have luxuries, but it’s certainly not a necessity or as important as air, food, water, and some other elements of life. Simply put: any luxury is not a necessity.

Any luxury is not part of the basic foundation for living—but any necessity surely is! So why have so many of us consciously or subconsciously allowed luxuries to become necessities in our individual lives?

What’s the fuss about luxuries or “unessential things” when we can live perfectly well without them? Why have we become slaves to different types of luxuries when we can actually do without most or all of them?

Like a fresh newborn baby, the absence of luxuries or unessential things cannot take a toll on you except you allow it or become enslaved by it.

Deep down, we all know those unessential things: we all know the things we can certainly live without, even though we mistakenly or wrongly believe that we can’t live without them.

On one hand, lies unessential things; on the other lies the essential things or “necessities” of life—the basics which we can’t do or live without, such as air, water, and food. But surely, we can live without many of the luxuries and excesses in our lives.

Many of our emotional and financial problems stem from the obvious: we’ve allowed luxuries to become necessities in our individual lives, instead of preventing and controlling them along with the negative impact they could have on us.

The downside of allowing luxuries to become necessities

The problem with allowing luxuries to become necessities—or mistaking luxuries for necessities—is that it can rob you of developing or maintaining some required amount of self-discipline which you need to maintain a healthy state of equilibrium in various aspects of life.

How would a person eventually succeed in losing weight when they aren’t able to muster enough self-discipline and resolve to heed their doctor’s advice and actually retire from eating specific foods—say, burger, pizza, etc.

Why wouldn’t it be difficult for a person to prevent luxuries from becoming necessities when they spend every day looking for chances to make unessential or unnecessary luxuries the foundation of their life?

Why not prevent luxuries from becoming necessities?

Every now and then try to live or do without the luxuries or unessential things that many people erroneously or intentionally regard as necessities, and you’ll stand to gain valuable benefits in several ways.

Firstly it can push you beyond your comfort zone and help you develop higher levels of mental resilience which can enable you to recover more easily and readily from cases of depression and adversity that are linked to certain levels of dependence on luxuries or unessential things.

Secondly, it can serve as an eye-opener and help you discover the things you really need in your life as opposed to the things that you don’t need as much: it will provide food for thought as to the exact things that are not as important as you’ve been thinking they are.

This insight can inspire you to eradicate unessential things from your life and create more time and space to focus on essential or important things which are the necessities of life and general to all human beings regardless of their age, race, social status, etc.

Lastly, preventing luxuries from becoming necessities can help to enhance your ability to be more contented and feel happier with less—i.e., when you live only on necessities—in the absence of luxuries.

Behind the Scenes, Everybody Struggles in Some Areas of Life

Everyone’s life would appear to be a bit more equal if we view life in a much broader scope and come to this simple conclusion/fact: every man-made creation that exists around us was made by people who had experienced their own struggles behind the scenes while doing what they love and do best.

In all seriousness and reality, despite the carefree lifestyles shown in many movies and magazines, a carefree lifestyle just doesn’t exist. Dear soul, a life that’s void of struggles just doesn’t exist!

Nobody is superhuman enough to rid themselves of struggles in all areas of life, even if they portray or would like to portray a life of carefreeness to the whole wide world. Actually, everyone struggles in life—in fact, more often behind the scenes—emotionally, financially, materially, etc.

This might sound shocking, but nobody—including the world’s most brilliant and greatest geniuses—was, is, or will ever be as godlike or superhuman to the point of completely evading or making themselves immune from struggles.

In one way or another, everyone struggles. It’s not easy to notice that everyone struggles if you focus only on the successes or accomplishments of the people who are majorly changing the world around you.

We wrongly assume that successful or accomplished people usually don’t have struggles to contend with because they appear to be perfect, too intelligent, extremely productive, tremendously persistent, highly creative, enormously popular, so zealous, exceedingly beautiful, very strong, etc.

Even if you’ve authored many books on a subject and taught people how to handle struggles, that doesn’t mean you don’t or won’t ever have a load or truckload of struggles to deal or compete with.

The people behind the scenes of success or accomplishments have had to deal with the same types of problems as people who haven’t yet succeeded; the only difference is that they know how to cover their problems from the public and handle them a bit more effectively.

While achieving success, many great men and women had their own fair share of struggles and failures, found themselves unable to avoid or resist some temptations, succumbed to the allure of instant gratification, and even jeopardized some of their long-term goals. This is just part of being human—not superhuman or godlike!

As a matter of fact, the people whom we consider to be extremely successful aren’t that much different from us or anybody. Many of them struggled in the past: some had less willpower than we currently have, while others were less disciplined than us. However, they contended with and overcame their struggles.

Becoming intelligent, extremely productive, tremendously persistent, highly creative, and enormously popular is within everybody’s grasp—even if there’s some struggling to hustle with behind the scenes.

Neither you nor anybody else will ever live without having at least an ounce of struggle in one or more aspects of life: nobody will ever permanently distance themselves from the unpredictable struggles of life. Learn to accept and adapt to that, but keep your head up high as you come to terms with your conditions.

Stop Enslaving Yourself and Nobody Would Have Power to Enslave You

Self-enslavement is the bane of our world today. It’s so easy and normal to knowingly or unknowingly be a slave of our passions and fears and blame other people, situations, or things for our personal lapses and weaknesses that emanate from self-enslavement.

Each one of us really needs to look within ourselves before throwing blames outside, on other people or external factors: before pointing the finger at others and complaining that they’ve enslaved you, search within yourself and ascertain whether you have enslaved yourself or not.

Yes, look within. Take a cold hard stare at the best mirror which is your own soul—it honestly knows right and wrong—and you may find there slavish desires, submissive thoughts, and subservient habits that are enslaving your everyday life.

Conquer these entities so you can be in a better position to stop enslaving yourself. If you can put a halt to self-enslavement, then nobody would have the power to enslave you or compel you to sell your soul or life responsibilities and choices to other people.

Although external circumstances exert some influence, at the end of the day, the control of crucial aspects of your life depends on you

Conquer that lust which breaks your diet, instead of blaming your friends for constantly tempting you to get hold of something to eat, and in so doing, effortlessly break your diet. 

Work on your self-discipline which enslaves and wastes your finances, instead of faulting politicians and evil corporations who don’t spend an ounce of your money with you.

If you master or have power over your self-discipline, lust, patience, and the host of other inner attributes, then you achieve self-mastery and nobody would be able to enslave you or sway you from your earnest desires or volition.

Whenever your heart tells you to blame someone or an external factor for your lack of patience, self-discipline, or other inner quality, think about it again, and maybe again. Do we always have to point the finger and blame other people for our inability to be resolute or firm? Hell no!

The Best Way to Protect Yourself from Temptation is to Avoid It

Each person has one or more things that draw or try to draw them down into the mire. “Has” implies a certain type of craving or affection on our own part: in a way, our attraction to certain things contributes to our own downfall.

By not avoiding certain things or temptations altogether, we leave a gap or weakness which opens up a chance for certain things or temptations to take us down, tear us apart, or even destroy us completely.

Why go to the theaters at late hours when it causes you to wake up late and arrive at work late? Even if you’re highly self-disciplined, prevention is better than cure: avoiding theaters at late hours would protect your self-discipline from fighting against urges and help you wake up early and arrive at work early.

Sometimes we make it more difficult or get it entirely wrong: we think being self-disciplined is the best option and implies we should deliberately look for the things that can expose our weakness and lead us astray or into problems or complications.

We think because we have self-discipline, we can/should put ourselves to the test: we think we are strong enough to set ourselves up for possible failure.

It may be difficult to resist temptations but not difficult enough to avoid them—at least some of them: the best way to defend or protect yourself against temptations is to avoid them from the onset—completely.

Avoidance is better than exerting self-control

If you go to the bar every day or week, your chances of getting high or drunk would be higher than those of a person who avoids the bar and spends their time at home reading or doing something else.

The probability of cheating on your diet would be higher if you keep some forbidden foods at home. Keeping forbidden foods away from home will defend or protect you better from struggling with the urge to eat after taking forbidden foods home.

Your chances of consuming or selling hard drugs would be low or nil if you keep away from those bad boys in your neighborhood. You’d likely be more inclined to focus on your writing or online work if you could just close all those distracting websites or web pages.

Why not avoid those temptations in the first place, instead of exposing yourself and having to struggle, having to rely on your self-discipline or willpower to protect you from things you could have easily evaded at the best time—from the onset.

The bottom line: temptations are not worth it. Avoid them at all cost, instead of setting yourself up for an uphill battle that could really test your resolve and put you under possible immense pressure which may subdue you.

Some Choices We Make Have Consequences of a Lifetime

Newton’s third law states that “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction”. We would like to buttress the point much more and give a broader or more complete picture by stating that every “action” and “inaction” has consequences.

A choice is what you decide to do or not do. Some of the choices we make—actions or inactions—have consequences that can be effective or exert an influence throughout or beyond the duration of a lifetime.

Although the consequences of some of our choices are not always clear-cut or predictable, they can create more impact than other consequences.

The actions of Jesus, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Leonardo DaVinci, Thomas Jefferson, and many individuals have had and still have consequences that transcend a lifetime or an uncountable number of lifetimes.

We need to be careful how and where we tread because the choices (including the somewhat insignificant decisions) we make today can have a great and lasting consequence which can impact our future.

It may take only a second, a minute, or a moment to make the wrong choice and put your future in jeopardy. The choices we make in a second, minute, or moment can and do often create consequences that reverberate for many years, decades, or even lifetimes into the future.

Each choice you make sets up a consequence. If you make wrong choices consistently, like several times in a row, it becomes your standard or habitual method or procedure. This could set you up for problems.

Underestimating the consequences of your actions, inactions, and the possible impacts of repeatedly making wrong choices can profoundly affect the rest of your life.

What do you think may happen in the future if you make a particular choice now or tomorrow?

Whenever you’re faced with a choice or decision to make, remind yourself that any choice you make at the moment can create consequences that would not only affect the present moment but also the future.

The choices we make affect our future in many ways

It’s crucial and good to make the right choices. However, it is important to note that accidentally or unintentionally making a bad decision in life is part of being human. In fact, we can learn from it and become wiser.

To a certain degree, we all make mistakes and mess up from time to time, but what matters more than making a bad choice is how we learn from or deal with the mistakes or bad choices we make.

Are you going to continue making bad decisions or will you reassess your bad decisions and start moving in a different or more beneficial direction?

Many people make wrong choices, even though they think positively. If you think positive thoughts all day long, your life can still be a mess if you make bad decisions.

Fortunately, even when we make bad decisions, there’s still hope: with GOD on your side, it’s always possible to get your life back on the right track and clean up the mess created from bad choices.

Examples of choices and their possible consequences or outcomes which could even stretch over a lifetime

  • If you choose to prepare very well for an exam, the possible consequence or outcome is that you could get a high score or grade.
  • If you choose to stop attending classes and not prepare well for an exam, the possible consequence is that you could perform poorly or fail.
  • If you choose to play games during working hours, instead of working for your boss, you could get fired or sacked from work.
  • If you choose to spend the night partying and drinking with friends instead of preparing for your flight the next day, the possible consequence is that you could end up missing the flight and any opportunity that is linked with the flight.
  • If you choose to buy things that are “outside of your league”, the possible consequence is that you could run out of budget and end up being broke or owing a huge debt.
  • If you choose to continue applying for jobs, the possible consequence is that you could increase your chances of getting interviewed and landing a job.
  • But if you don’t prepare well for a job interview, the possible consequence is that you may not be given the job that is linked with the interview.
  • If you choose to put up a wrong or disgraceful attitude, the possible consequence is that you may ruffle some feathers and keep people away from you.
  • If you choose to be in an unhealthy or troublesome relationship, then the possible consequence is that you would hardly experience true love.
  • Etc.

Overcoming One Obstacle Simply Means You Can Overcome More

The great law of nature allows many things to have their way, including obstacles. Life on Earth is a life of obstacles and constraints. However, as negative as the word “obstacle” sounds, each obstacle is the way to growth and development!

Just think for a moment about how you successfully overcame some obstacles in the past. Those experiences made you to become better and stronger—however, only better and stronger enough to meet an even bigger obstacle later on!

It’s important to point out that obstacles keep life continuously developing, evolving, and interesting, especially when they are unexpectedly discovered to be the sure way to hidden treasures. It can be surprising to find out the number of opportunities that are sometimes clothed and disguised in obstacles.

Run away from every obstacle and you may be running away from a ton of opportunities that life wants us to access by breaking through those fortified lines called “obstacles”.

Obstacles have potential! Each time you come across an obstacle, you learn something and develop wisdom, strength, or gain a new perspective of life or an endeavor. Each time you’re done, you become a better version of yourself.

As long as the world keeps spinning, we’ll keep encountering obstacles in one form or another

The more you accomplish in life and move forward, the more things and obstacles you’d find standing in your way, even if those obstacles are actually the way to your true destiny or life calling.

There’s a popular Haitian proverb that states, “Behind mountains are more mountains”. Although you may have an obstacle, if you take a good look, you’d find an even greater one around the corner.

According to an Elysium myth, nobody overcomes an obstacle to enter a land of no obstacles. In other words, nobody stops encountering an obstacle after overcoming an obstacle. Obstacles are part of life, but they are the way to a higher life.

Each obstacle brings in its train a battle that can be used to eventually stand taller, make better progress, and evolve in harmony with the laws of nature which are fitted with obstacles.

There are and will always be more obstacles and bigger challenges along our way, but how we approach and handle them would be crucial in our quest to become better or the best version of our respective selves.

Overcoming one obstacle simply means you can overcome more obstacles which Mother Nature and her world seem to enjoy throwing at you because they are for your good and you have what it takes to handle them.

Therefore, be hopeful and cheerful while handling an obstacle or waiting for the next one. 

We Hardly Consider How Much Worse Things Could Have Been

No matter the situation you’re in, things could have been much worse than they have been. If you unfortunately lose money, take note that you could have lost all your property. If you unfortunately lose your job, take note that you could have lost your life.

That’s just the way it is: generally, we’re not in charge of many things in life and in our lives. So, even if we get into a seriously challenging and trying situation—worst case scenario—we have to hope for the best outcome while being thankful that the trying situation isn’t much worse.

Accepting the challenges posed by your worst obstacles or unfortunate circumstances—rather than rejecting or resenting them—can help you become a different and stronger person who is better adjusted to the reality of the constraints or challenges from terrible situations.

The constraints in life can still lead us to our desired destination

Oftentimes, it doesn’t seem as if obstacles and constraints would work to our advantage—but they can and sometimes do, especially if we accept them and allow them to dictate things a bit or completely.

Constraints force us to go places we’d never want or think of; they push us to develop skills we’d otherwise leave undeveloped. Everybody would like to have developed or many developed skills or virtues, but that isn’t up to us. It is up to Life—to GOD.

Life pushes us: It tells us to go here and there. It places constraints or limitations around us. In the midst of it all, we’d be unwise to argue with or yell at Life. We’d be better off accepting some so-called “unacceptable situations” and forging ahead with optimism, while understanding that situations could have been worse than they are.

If you aren’t the cause of your problem, accept your situation and move on

Moving on from a problem or defeat doesn’t mean you’ve given up. What it means is that you’ve accepted a challenge and—if you are the courageous type—would try to turn it upside down and use it to your advantage.

Appreciate the situation of your problem. Accept what you have. Learn to be at peace with it. Instead of wasting time, wailing, and complaining, accept that failure or constraint and move on. To stress the point further, even if the inconceivable becomes conceivable or presents itself, be ready to accept it and move on.

Many life lessons teach us that anything can happen. Many fortunate and unfortunate events are controlled by fate or better “the Will of GOD”. Fate or the Will of GOD is the unseen power or greatest force that shapes our lives and destinies.

We definitely had nothing to do with being born black, white, or any other color—none of us had any influence on it. The constraints in life make certain things that happen, to happen, and no one else but GOD would ever change them.

In many aspects of life, it could be helpful to consider how much worse things could have been. We should be humble and flexible enough to acknowledge that certain things are just way beyond us, and both the known and unknown could change our initial plans at any time.

While Hoping for the Best, Also Prepare for the Worst

Your plans may look all set up and geared for success until, out of nowhere, things suddenly go wrong. In fact, on the eve of launching a major initiative, things may go wrong and your project may even fail entirely.

As you hope for the best, prepare for the worst because the worst can show up at any moment; not to hurt you, but teach you how to envision in advance that anything could or may go wrong; it could help you understand why you shouldn’t put all your hopes or eggs in one porous basket.

Many plans fail for preventable reasons, and many people don’t have a second or backup plan because they don’t consider or refuse to acknowledge that something may go wrong out of nowhere.

What we think we deserve is rarely what we get precisely

While hoping for the best, what we mostly end up getting only resembles what we actually planned for or set our minds on in the beginning. Although we know this fact, we still act as if we’re ignorant of it, and we’re repeatedly surprised when misfortune unfolds on the run to the future.

Mike Tyson, a famous boxer, who pondered on the collapse of his fortune and fame, once stated that “If you’re not humble. Life will visit humbleness upon you”.

If we learn how to consider worst-case scenarios while we hope for the best, we won’t get into an emotional mess or catastrophe at critical and disastrous points in our lifetimes.

As we think and work on a plan, it is also important to consider the things that may go wrong, or that things may go wrong and block that plan: storms could arise, and the person we depend on the most may become sick; we may even be visited by the misfortunes of Mother Nature herself—oh, what a world of uncertainty we live in!

Always be prepared to get disrupted; in fact, consider every possible disruption in your plans

The best way to be balanced in a world of uncertainty is to be fit for both defeat and victory—we have to be prepared for the best and worst and consider disruptions as part of life.

Prepare that whenever life sucks, you’ll better manage the situation and be okay. Prepare that, even if you’re dependent on other people, not everyone can always be counted on. Unfortunately, sometimes we’re the ones who are our own worst enemy, not other people.

We and everyone could make mistakes and destroy our personal plans—not every time, but likely some or most of the time. If you assume that everything will always work out, you may become surprised, miserable, and have a difficult time accepting misfortune and moving on with life when disruptions set in.

Contrary to most people’s expectations, things could actually become worse before they become better

Even if people would call you a pessimist, learn to expect the worst and be calm before a storm arises. It’s better to be a pessimist who believes that all terrible things will work for your good, than to be caught off guard by hoping for the best and never preparing for the worst when it eventually arrives. 

In a world of misfortune, put yourself in the best position possible by preparing your mind in advance for adversity. Get prepared for adversity to be as hard as possible and as hard as it can oftentimes actually be.

The fact that the worst thing can happen doesn’t mean the worst thing will permanently remain worse. Expected failure is easier to manage than unexpected failure. If you think that things may go wrong, nothing that eventually goes wrong will catch you by surprise.

The person who is prepared to be disappointed won’t actually become disappointed when the wheels fall off; in fact, they would have the strength to bear disappointment.

While we always hope for the best during times of peace, it is advisable to prepare for the worst; doing so would give us time to raise our inner or emotional defenses and also help us resist breaking into pieces when things don’t go according to our plans.

Be ready for success but also prepare for failure!

Be Ready in Case None of Your Best Efforts Work

At times, no matter how much faith we have, things might not just work out the way we wish. However, this doesn’t mean we should give up trying—or more importantly, our future—when things don’t work out according to our desire.

Each one of us has the ability to always think clearly and do things creatively, and nothing in the world can ever stop us from trying our best or putting in our best efforts.

Despite all our creativity, efforts, and dedication, fortune can misbehave at any moment and create obstacles that may be impossible for us to overcome.

One obvious truth is that we can’t always be in control of the world around us: we can’t always run things the way or manner like. 

Even if we have the greatest faith in the world and act rightly, we may still end up falling short or failing anyway. Therefore, it’s important for us to be prepared at all times in case anything goes wrong!

Some things are or will be bigger than us, but we can still continue to advance or evolve for the better

Yes, some things are and will be bigger than us, but nothing can ever prevent us from trying one thing or another. Some paths may be impassable and some of our actions may be rendered impossible.

But this doesn’t necessarily mean that we are completely unfortunate. Why? Because we can use such circumstances as opportunities to acquire some virtues, abilities, or skills—even if it involves learning to be humble and accept that unfortunate things could happen.

In every situation that helps or hinders our progress—whether it’s fortunate or unfortunate—we are presented with a new path that can open a new or better part of us.

If you love someone, but the person hurt you, a new path could open for you to practice forgiveness. If you lost all you have, a new path could unfold for you to buckle up, face reality, and hustle to gain more than all you lost or ever had in your life.

Problems present chances or opportunities for us to try, do the best that we possibly can, or even become better. But we must be willing to play our part and roll the dice, even if we will end up losing.

At times, no amount of thinking, planning, zeal, effort, and dedication—no matter how hard we try—will change the fact that certain things won’t work at the end of the day.

Therefore, be prepared that at the end of the day, even your best efforts may not work. Anyone who pursues a goal comes face-to-face with this reality, again and again.

Try all you can to get things done, be ready to accept whatever verdict comes, and move on instantly to whatever is next on the path to your future and your destiny.

Don’t Wait for Chances—Look for Chances and Seize Them by the Horn

The most successful people are not those who have waited for chances, but those who have searched for chances, besieged chances, conquered chances, taken over chances, and used chances to achieve greatness, even when the chances were seriously challenging.

In case you look for a chance and find one that is a negative situation or leads to failure, you can still use that failure as a teachable moment and later on apply any lessons you learn from it.

It is true that while looking for chances, we may run into negative situations. But we have to learn how to absorb the power of negative situations and infuse ourselves with energy that can propel us to success.

If you think it’s enough to only take advantage of the chances or opportunities that come to you, instead of looking for them, you may likely fall short of greatness which is mostly attained by looking for chances, and besieging and seizing them.

One effective thing you must do is learn how to press your buttons and move forward even when everybody around you or everyone in a negative situation sees only disaster.

Never forget that during apparently negative moments, when most people or everyone is besieged and seized by discouragement, you can still act unexpectedly and swiftly and seize chances in a way that can pull off a great victory.

We shouldn’t always ignore every negative situation and allow the crises they contain to become a waste. Crises could provide opportunities for us to achieve things we couldn’t achieve before or without crises.

If you observe the great successes or achievements of the past and present, you will clearly notice that, while looking for chances, some people stumbled across negative events which they seized and used to achieve success or push through much-needed reforms. We all can still do the same in our lives.

If you plan to use the chances you’ve found, but run into accidents or failures, you can still use them to your advantage

Have you become sick and are tied to your bed? Well, you now have time to write or think and develop more or better plans for your future.

Have you lost your relationship? Well, you now have time to look for a better one or even the best one out there.

Learn to look for chances in negative situations, seize their moments, and bring life to the plans that have been latent or sitting dormant in your mind.

While other people are shying away from every negative situation, and avoiding every trouble in a world that’s designed to be full of troubles, do the opposite: become your best version in seemingly difficult circumstances; turn tragedies or misfortunes to your advantage.

Don’t always focus on the negatives in some of the chances you seek for. Stop feeling disappointed and sorry for yourself. And never forget that life always moves on and favors the bold and brave who are able to seize chances even when they contain a ton of negativity.

We complain that we haven’t been given chances or opportunities, but we have—chances always exist, even in seemingly negative situations

At certain moments during our brief existence in this physical life, when we look for chances but run into frustrating or unfair challenges or trials, are we fond of running away from the adversity they throw at us or do we use the adversity to mount an offense that can lead us to success?

More precisely, do we look deeper into our problems and challenges in order to find opportunities or solutions that we’ve long been waiting for? If we don’t do so—in order to look for chances and take them—then it’s on us, and no one else.

When other people are waiting for chances, don’t wait; go out and look for them until you find them. And if eventually, you end up finding them but they are negative or challenging, instead of focusing on the negativity and disaster radiating from them, look further for positives and any opportunities.

Overcoming Obstacles by Using Obstacles Against Themselves

Overcoming an obstacle surely requires taking action. Action has many definitions…taking action does not necessarily require force or motion for it to be effective—implying that we can take firm action by not acting as the average person would.

Sometimes, the best or easiest way to overcome an obstacle is by halting, stepping aside, remaining a bit laid back, and even letting the obstacle advance towards you, instead of attacking it when the opportunity arises.

In many regards, inaction or dormancy is enough action. Everything doesn’t need to be as active or forceful as people or society would expect. We are at liberty to act in ways that would make any obstacle absorb its own power and destroy itself, but still work for us on the other hand.

Perhaps, your obstacle or enemy looks really insurmountable, as it did against Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, and many others who concentrated on overcoming obstacles by pitching love against hatred, and peace against violence, injustice, and intimidation. 

Some obstacles may be impossible to defeat, regardless of the action you take or the amount of effort you put in. Instead of using your own unlimited resources to attack, why not find a way to use your obstacle’s resources and adversity against its totality—against itself.

It hardly ever occurs to us that, in some cases, standing still or moving backward is the best way to advance

Actually, sometimes we need to take action. But we also have to acknowledge that inaction—restraining ourselves or “holding back”—might be the best action to eliminate the blocks on our respective paths.

Sometimes, each person needs to have patience or a bit more patience than the patience they have cultivated in their life: sometimes, we just need to wait for obstacles to dry up or fizzle out.

Sometimes, an obstacle might not require anything or much from you. As a result, taking any or too much action could become your own worst enemy and get you consumed when moving forward.

We wrongly assume that the only way we can progress, the only way we can win, is by attacking or moving forward, instead of pausing or standing—in fact, doing virtually nothing!

At the end of the day, what matters is whether the approach you use gets you to the place you desire. Although pausing, slowing down, or using obstacles against themselves may seem ineffective, it is different from doing nothing, and can often help to achieve a great deal.

Look closely and you may be surprised to find out that the bigness of your obstacles can, in fact, be an advantage for you and a disadvantage for your obstacles. It can help you push the tide against your obstacles.

Yes, we can use the things that seriously challenge us to our advantage and make them do the hard work for us. Sometimes, this would require us to calm down, leave our obstacles the way they are, instead of stressing ourselves to take every conceivable action.

Everyday, Life Asks Us Questions; Our Daily Actions are the Answers

As we continue climbing the ladder of life each day, life itself silently asks us questions by creating conditions through siblings, friends, parents, pets, the environment, and almost everything conceivable.

Life may even ask us questions through non-living things. Sometimes, on the road to success or what we want to become, life would even ask us to do certain things that, usually, we’d rather not want to do or entertain.

In any case, and regardless of our decisions, our actions are always answers which can be right or wrong or anything in between the two.

Regardless of any expected outcome, we need to take actions to progress and keep moving ahead. Therefore, it is appropriate or necessary that whenever we need do something that is necessary, and especially good, we have to do it well, bearing in mind that the value of our actions is as real as life’s conditions and demands which are like serious questions.

At any junction, life may ask us to become so low by introducing us to the broom—yes, so that we can get down there and do some real sweeping. Fortunately, but unknown to many people who throw certain opportunities away, whenever life wants to humble you, it also provides an opportunity for you to excel—and learn.

Many people climbed from humbleness and poverty to power by putting in their best—by wholeheartedly doing what life asked and expected them to do. And they did it the right way, with the right sense of pride. In fact, they even did it better than everyone else.

The quality of our actions matter; they are answers to life’s serious questions which also matter as much

Everything we do matters! It is thus important to concentrate as best as we can on the tasks of the moment, noting fully well that everything that life presents is an opportunity to exhibit our best while still chasing after perfection.

Chasing after perfection is our primary obligation or duty. (This might not be wrong or far from the truth.) In other words, what this means is that whatever we are doing, we owe it to life, the world, our profession, and ourselves to do it as best as we possibly can—do it well.

All vanity will fall away if taking high-value actions becomes a priority

We all are given different sets or types of conditions during our respective lives; it doesn’t matter whether they are glamorous or not glamorous. What matters most is how we treat each condition. Do we treat them with utmost seriousness and as a priority?

Therefore, each action we take on the path to our destination matters; hence, we should be careful not to give less than we are actually capable of giving. Whatever we are facing, we should respond with honesty, hard work, and by helping people as best as we possibly can.

Whether we are paid or not, or whether anyone notices our best efforts or not, it doesn’t matter as much as giving our best—regardless of the positives or negatives!

Life is a serious business and the questions that life asks us, along with the actions it expects and prompts us to take, require us to give our best—our all!

No matter what we are doing—whether we are facing bankruptcy or making money, rich or poor, here in hell or there in heaven—we are taking action and making something serious out of life, and this something requires at least some level of seriousness, attention, and dedication.

Defeat is Nothing but Education—Steps to Become Better

Defeat precedes almost all types of success. In fact, it is a preceding feature of almost all successes. Defeat is a great asset when used to learn, improve, and become better. 

So there’s nothing shameful about being wrong or experiencing defeat when it has the potential to be eye-opening and elevate you from grass to grace.

There’s definitely nothing wrong with defeats that open up more pathways, provide new options, and continue to prove that problems are not problems—they are opportunities!

To a certain degree, most successes in life embrace some element of defeat and failure in one way or another. In fact, defeat and failure contribute to great successes.

In an imperfect world where there are many masters, but nobody is truly the Master—nobody knows it all—it helps to keep trying your best while tolerating failures, possibly many times over.

It’s okay to fail or experience defeat. Experiencing defeat may even be a good thing—a blessing in disguise—if you experience and learn from it without allowing it to defeat you.

When defeat or failure comes, go back to the drawing board and ask questions

Questions and answers are two sides of the same coin. Defeats raise important questions and lead to the discovery of many important answers.

Whenever defeat comes, don’t leave yourself to chance and become stuck and paralyzed as many others do. Ask yourself what you’re missing, what can be improved, what went wrong, etc.

Calm down, ask questions, look for answers, then learn and develop. Look at defeats as sources of breakthroughs because they put people in corners or situations that force them to think their way out and become conquerors.

Defeats often led and still lead to the discovery of alternative methods of doing things. It prompts inquisitive people to go back to the drawing board and gain more insight to find items or activities that are more productive or effective than the existing ones.

The only way not to benefit from defeat is by not learning from it

People usually fail in one way or another, all the time, but many don’t learn a thing or two. They don’t pay attention to the details and lessons in defeats or failures.

They don’t listen to the sounds of the problems that defeat or failure exposes. If they would, it could make them better and more prepared to seize many defeats or failures by the horn and achieve more success.

It’s high time we come to terms with the fact that every defeat or failure has the potential to give us valuable lessons and instructions on how to improve and become better, if we really pay attention and get inquisitive—ask questions.

Paying attention to defeats in a positive way can help to turn pessimistic views into optimistic ones, overcome obstacles, turn disappointments into opportunities, and prove what is right by showing what is wrong or unnecessary.

Focus on the Moment, Not on the Monsters that May or May Not Appear Tomorrow

Most people start life from a disadvantaged position and, over the course of time, some of them become just fine! By focussing on the moment, taking things one at a time, second after second, minute after minute, hour after hour, they empowered more necessary thoughts, eliminated unnecessary thoughts, and enhanced their individual ability to keep the wheels rolling.

Generally, we are limited by our very human nature and can’t always think outside the box like GOD can. As a result, we usually place ourselves in the most unfair and limited position by focussing endlessly on the obstacles of the past and future of almost everything we can possibly think of, instead of focussing on the moment.

But the few individuals who go above and overboard aren’t always omniscient or omnipotent! Yes, they aren’t always sure whether their existing problems will disappear or become worse. However, one thing they’re certainly sure of is placing their utmost focus on the situation(s) at hand—the present moment. While concentrating on the moment, they find it easier to handle real obstacles—the obstacles of the moment!

Focussing on obstacles that may or may not appear tomorrow can get you and your emotions worked up in over-thinking, and limit the amount of energy and quality of focus you can actually develop to handle real problems—the problems of the moment.

What matters is “quick-fire” focus on the moment

If you have a pressing problem or obstacle now—at the moment—would it matter whether this moment is the worst moment for you to be alive? Would it really matter if you waste your time conceiving thousands of different thoughts about monsters or problems which may or may not even appear in the future? No, it wouldn’t!

Unfortunately, it is usual for people’s imaginations to sway beyond the present into the past and future, without ever taking note of the fact that projected obstacles—which may never appear in the future—are not as real as the present obstacles which are the ones that require the utmost focus.

Living in the present can be very demanding, but the more we embrace the moment—the present—the easier it becomes to face obstacles, tackle them, and move on.

Obstacles have to be viewed in a different light: we can use them as opportunities to focus on the present moment, take our best actions one step at a time, and be content to focus on/deal with results as they arise from our actions.

Concentrating on the Things Within Your Power, Enhances Your Power

Could you make a list of things that are not within our power as humans? A list of things that don’t depend on us, our feelings, or whatever we think? They may be uncountable, but at least the list would have enough room to include: the weather, the economy, natural disasters, regional or world trends, etc.

Fortunately enough, on the other hand are actually many things that are within our power—things we can control. But most people consciously or unconsciously focus and waste energy on the things that aren’t within their control, and are thus outside their league.

Every ounce of energy used on the things we can’t influence is self-indulgent, a waste, and can lead to self-destruction if one is not careful. A lot of power is frittered away by focusing and wasting time on things that we can’t control or regulate.

Even more harmful is the mental energy many people waste while chasing the winds: chasing those things we think we can change, when all heaven and earth knows that we can’t because their foundations are outside our human league.

That an employer decided not to employ you, is not within your control. It’s not under your power to decide for employers, so get over it and focus on becoming better and ready for a bigger opportunity in the future.

But it’s within your control to become better in your field or profession. It’s within people’s control to fight against their personal drug usage and addiction problems. Many things are up to you, within your power, and depend on how determined you are.

The things under our control are like playing fields in the game of life, while those that aren’t are like rules and regulations of the game of life—rules and regulations that we cannot bend.

No matter how inflexible they are, and how helpless we are against uncontrollable circumstances, you won’t stand much to gain by focussing on them.

But you can gain more momentum and power by using the same amount of time to focus entirely on those things that are within your power or control.

Achieving Success Despite Facing Obstacles that Hold Many People Back

Almost every now and then, we face obstacles—an unexpected, unfortunate, frustrating, and problematic issue—that prevent us from doing what we want to do.

Unknown to many of us, embedded in the issue or problem are benefits—benefits only for the person to whom the issue or problem is unique.

What do most people do with the issue or problem? They do nothing because it paralyzes them. They wish the issue would be just a mere empty thought, but it is reality.

Despite the reality of any issue, there is something that is highly valuable and equally/more of a reality: the possibility for you to succeed despite facing the obstacles that have held and still hold other people back.

Obstacles are usually general but, in a way, unique to each of us

The obstacles that block us are obvious and real. Every obstacle is somewhat unique to each individual because of the different or slightly different types of responses they elicit from each individual: hope, optimism, helplessness, pessimism, frustration, depression, fear, anger, etc.

Obstacles may include but aren’t limited to: race; height; age; size; poverty; high emotional stress; lack of confidence; inexperience; prejudice; skyrocketing costs of education; laws or regulations; crumbling, disintegrating, or decaying public/government or private institutions; etc.

Although we are dissatisfied with our position in the world, jobs, relationships, etc., and blame the economy, our bosses, and politicians when we can’t achieve our goals, we usually forget to fault our own individual attitudes or approaches to the general obstacles that many other people face but only a few overcome and achieve success.

In many instances, we need to face and work to overcome obstacles, instead of dodging them

When confronted by obstacles, and even failure, most people try to hit the road and run away. Even when they succeed in running away, it usually makes them become reactive, disoriented and torn apart.

However, if we look elsewhere, back into the past, or not too far away from us, we would notice that some individuals have turned the very obstacles we face into launching pads for success.

If you look elsewhere, back into the past, or not too far away from you, you would clearly sense and conclude that anyone can still succeed despite facing obstacles that hold many other people back.

If you read a little bit more history, then you would find out that earlier generations of mankind faced much more difficult problems than present or recent generations and were able to use the obstacles to progress, while most of us are still stuck in similar obstacles of the present-day.

Maybe we need to understand, appreciate, and discover how to use the obstacles that life throws at us

If we look elsewhere, back into the past, or not too far away from us and see the unimaginable obstacles and day-to-day frustrations that great men and women had to overcome before achieving success, we may need to change our individual perspectives about obstacles and learn how to use them for our own good.

If we look elsewhere, back into the past, or not too far away from us, and see the resistance, rivalries, stresses, drama, challenges, breakups, economic calamities, and pressures that some successful people had to experience and endure before achieving success, we would have a stronger mindset and more positive outlook on the obstacles of life.

Great and successful individuals find ways to transform obstacles into opportunities and weaknesses into strengths

It is inspiring to look elsewhere, back into the past, or not too far away from us, and see people progress further in life by using what should have held them backward in failure.

It is inspiring to look elsewhere, back into the past, or not too far away from us, and see great men and women of history use obstacles to fuel their ambition and create fortune from misfortune, instead of allowing discouragement and pessimism to take control.

If you conduct thorough research about people who achieved success and were outstanding, you will discover that successful or outstanding people come through obstacles in different shapes and sizes. They could be:

  • basketballers who weren’t tall
  • athletes who were too small
  • members of a race who didn’t “fit in”
  • musicians who were deaf
  • footballers who were initially subpar
  • bastards and immigrants who were “unrefined”
  • dropouts who were initially ill-mannered
  • disabled or dyslexics
  • etc.

But what happened despite their background or the obstacles they faced? They put in more effort. They hustled to grow in areas where they were lacking. They practiced harder! They paid their full dues! They achieved success even though many—maybe, even far too many—in their shoes gave up.

Although the obstacles might have kicked them around a bit, they still used the obstacles as opportunities and flipped each one to their advantage. We can do the same: regardless of whether we experience difficulty in getting a job, while running on less money, fighting against discrimination, locking horns with a hater, etc., we can use obstacles to our advantage if we take a closer look at them.

Nature Has a Purpose for Every Person, Animal, and Thing

Since free will is part of life on Earth, it might be easy to understand why people, animals—and maybe even plants—tend to dislike things that are either dissimilar or similar to their nature or species.

But it won’t be easy for some people and even animals to come to terms with any dislike that is shown towards other people, animals, and things in the environment.

Even if we don’t like/aren’t fond of a particular person, animal, or plant, it’s important to always remember that Nature has a purpose for bringing whatever it has brought into existence.

From the things that can be seen, to things that can’t be seen, such as the uncountable tiny atoms that exist, everything is connected with Nature and has a task and purpose that keeps them interconnected with each other and connected to the whole.

Even the objects and activities inside our world are interconnected with other objects and activities outside of it—in the solar system and cosmos or boundless universe.

Everything exists because Nature, in its greatest wisdom, conceived and brought everything into existence with a purpose attached. It’s not the duty of people, animals, and things to thwart that purpose!

Why the hatred, annihilation, or extinction of part or whole species, especially when nothing is at stake?

It’s disheartening that, because of hatred, jealousy, or some other unexplainable reason, some humans and animals show utter contempt, maim, and exterminate species or races that are different from or even the same with their own.

Why is there the tendency or desire to create nothingness out of the very things that Nature created for a purpose? Why the urge to impose one’s will and do away with an aspect of Nature that was created to be sustained regardless of how some people and animals think it shouldn’t?

Why aren’t we more inclined to view ourselves fortunate enough to have been conceived, created, and brought into have Nature? Everyone has the inborn ability to sustain Nature’s creations. That ability is like a small flame, and we are its guardians!

So, our job isn’t to utterly hate, debase, annihilate, or exterminate what we don’t like; rather, our job is to ensure that Nature’s offsprings are sustained as much as possible and live to the fullest extent possible.

Every individual has their own unique version of Nature’s flame and is responsible for using it, and especially directing it to enhance their own welfare and the welfare of Nature’s creations. If each one of us fails in this regard, the world will become much darker than it is.

However, if our flame flickers and we direct it as rightly as Nature wishes, then there will continue to be sustenance and light in the world. And the light would only become brighter.

Obstacles are Opportunities to Become Better, Stronger, and Successful

Figuratively and literally speaking, life is a battlefield. We have been stationed in different posts. Each person’s life is like a military campaign, confronted by obstacles as it progresses on the way.

Obstacles usually cause uncomfortable twists and turns that prompt us to keep watch like soldiers and do what we’re commanded to, even when it’s not always easy to follow orders—from above.

As individuals, we live to fight in one way or another! We fight to pull through and remain alive in a world that consists of people who are mostly indifferent and don’t care enough about their fellow human beings’ welfare and survival.

Every now and then we fight obstacles and challenges that are against our goals, our dreams, and the unique person we are working hard to become.

Although obstacles can impede our actions, it can’t impede our attitudes which have power to adapt and use obstacles as opportunities

We cannot evade all obstacles. If not today, then certainly in the future, one obstacle or another will appear in direct or indirect opposition to our plans. The obstacles may even threaten the foundation of the things we’ve erected or succeeded in putting in place.

Fortunately, we will always have a chance to study obstacles, adapt ourselves to them, and use them to develop higher, become wiser, and even succeed where people have failed.

We will have the chance to take a negative situation, turn it around and use it as an opportunity to develop a skill or unintended virtue, and become better prepared or more resilient when facing other types of pressing challenges in the future.

Use your obstacles (opportunities in disguise) to strengthen your personality

If an obstacle is preventing you from achieving your dreams on time, then your time of waiting might be the best time for you to use to practice or cultivate patience. Patience is important. Having more patience can keep you more grounded in certain areas or aspects of life.

If an employee has made a mistake and created an obstacle that is causing delays, then maybe it’s time for you to use the mistake or obstacle as an opportunity to teach other employees an important lesson from the mistake.

If someone has betrayed you or hurt your feelings, then maybe it’s time to learn how to forgive or be more forgiving—practice forgiveness.

If a situation is too difficult or hard, but we are too soft, then maybe it’s time for us to face the obstacle, squarely, and become stronger. When obstacles arise and we must face them, then we need to have an attitude that believes we will benefit from the obstacles! We need to see the positive side of things!

If we are able to reason along these lines, we will come to realize that in some cases, if not many, we can gain something valuable (a virtue, a skill, a new idea, etc.) by facing those obstacles we need to face.

Better be Flexible Instead of Sticking to a Script

One of the most important abilities to acquire in life is the ability to train the mind to adapt to or be flexible about any circumstances, especially the ones that push you to the edge or put you on the cliff.

Even if certain difficult or challenging circumstances take you off your plan or script, the ability to be flexible and adapt—if present—can keep you balanced and grounded until tides turn in your favor. 

But, as the case seems to be for a handful of us, for one reason or another, we don’t want to adapt, we aren’t ready to flex ourselves when the straight roads of life become crooked, even beyond our wildest expectations.

Actually, it would be very helpful if someone informs us about what would happen ahead of time. It would be awesome if someone shows us exactly what we need to do in every type of situation, regardless of whether it’s good or bad.

But, as we all know, the world doesn’t work that way for almost everybody: we don’t always have premonition about what will happen to us in the near or far future, neither thus anyone tell us (most of the time) exactly what we need to do correctly in every situation.

We spend an appreciable part of our lives preparing for the future so that we can be equipped and ready before time, but plans often change suddenly and beyond our control. Really, as great boxer Mike Tyson once remarked, “plans last only until you get punched in the face”.

After having plan and expectations in place, if you can’t adapt or exercise some degree of flexibility when the rough and crude adversities of life raise their heads and punch you in the face, then you will become handicapped or fall off the path.

It’s good to have plans but not always good to stick to the scripts for plans. Why? Because, as humans, the number of things and plans we can control are limited or even very limited. Major things or events can change at any moment.

We don’t always have an answer for every question or a plan for every contingency. Our scripts or plans can be changed a bit or completely by forces beyond our control: they can be edited or deleted without our consent.

But this doesn’t mean we can’t adapt or be flexible. It doesn’t mean we have to cave in.

We need to be confident that we’ll adapt, be flexible and change for the better, depending on the circumstances

If you seek for answers to all questions or perfect plans for every contingency, you’ll not always find them. However, you can be able to find the confidence that you’ll be able to adapt.

Some people may need to adapt by looking for more knowledge. Other people may need to adapt or be flexible by cultivating more skills or creativity.

Yet, a different category of people may need to adapt by being more independent and developing the ability to solve problems on their own instead of depending on the crowd.

We all are on different stages of evolution or development. By adapting in whatever way we may be required to, we become more resilient instead of rigid and stand in a better position to weather the storms of life.

Conclusion

Be flexible instead of sticking to a script!

Regrouping After Failure

Getting back after failure. Starting after quitting. Winning after losing. Regrouping after failure! No matter what you call it, it’s important not to allow setbacks or failures make us quit permanently, even when we temporarily give up on our dreams.

Quitting doesn’t mean you’ve permanently given up on your dreams; in most cases, it means you should quit using strategies and plans that are obviously not working for you. It means you should accept failure at the moment, temporarily, and stop to regroup on a more promising foundation.

Maybe you need to re-evaluate your product, target market, or overall marketing strategy. Maybe you’re focussing too much on customers who are not interested, so you need a change. Maybe your service or product doesn’t solve people’s problems, so you need to bring something else that solves problems.

No matter the area you’ve failed in or number of times you’ve failed, you can regroup to succeed elsewhere if you play your cards right. No matter what you’ve done right or wrong to attract failure, you can always regroup after failure. It’s never too late to start on the road to success.

Many people need to regroup by either fine-tuning their marketing strategy, finding a different or more promising product, or scrapping their entire service and concentrating on the things that really matter—the things that can keep your dreams alive.

As most successful people do, do whatever you need to do

No matter the necessary changes you need to make to get or keep the wheels rolling, go ahead and make them. It is better to quit, put aside all your past irrelevant effort, and start all over instead of continuing on a failed path that is destined to remain unproductive.

Many successful people experienced failure even after doing all they needed to do. Their failures prompted them to quit and regroup in another way, or elsewhere, and under a more profitable and promising setting that eventually attracted success later on.

Traf-O-Data (Bill Gates’ first company) failed because Gates and his partners weren’t able to make the company’s product work. Despite this, Bill Gates didn’t quit permanently.

Richard Branson was almost sent to prison when establishing his first Business, Student Magazine. He didn’t quit. Steve Jobs was fired from Apple in 1985 but regrouped instead of quitting, and found continuous success along the way.

Each person is likely going to fail at some point

Many successful people usually try a lot of things, but some or many of them eventually don’t work. Regardless of the positive or negative outcomes of their activities, successful people understand that may fail at some point; however, they don’t give room for failure to make them quit, permanently.

Successful people have the popular Japanese proverb at heart, “fall down seven times, stand up eight”. You should too: no matter how you fail, regroup after failure. Regroup with all you’ve got left on you.

Regroup and continue with what you were working on, or regroup and focus on something else that has a higher chance of yielding success. Regroup, stand up, and have great expectations for what comes next.

Conclusion/Advice

From the earliest of ages, it’s important to always realize that failing, falling, quitting, and regrouping are all parts of becoming successful or achieving success. In fact, failure is part of success.

Although failure is part of success, on the other hand, it could also be part of failure and lead to greater failure if we continue engaging in things that won’t/don’t work, instead of quitting and focussing on things that could work.

Stop Caring about What People Think

It’s almost always surprising to see how difficult it is for us humans to ward off feelings about what other people think about us. Even though we love and pay more attention to our own selves—individually—than we pay to other people, we end up putting more attention on other people’s opinions and just can’t stop caring what they think!

We are immensely happy with our own lives, but start becoming discontented immediately we find out that someone else or other people have a problem with ourselves and our possessions.

We think a shoe looks good on us at the store, but view it with shame and disgust when peers and people make fun of it later. Why is it easier to quickly disregard our own thoughts and feelings about something and adopt someone else’s thoughts?

Despite the appreciable or high degree of self-love we possess, we seem to give way too much credence to the opinions that our peers and other people have of us.

Such credence, if allowed to get out of control, could make us lose focus on our destiny as individuals, the aim which is to be an individual who doesn’t have to care or depend on what people think.

Why feel good about our talents and achievements only when people validate them?

Most people feel good about their abilities or potentials only when they are validated by third parties whose opinions are usually out of our control. Maybe, most people don’t know that even though each person can control only their individual opinion, they can’t exert complete control over what other people think.

Therefore, it’s dangerous and time-wasting to put our usually heavy hearts at the mercy of other people’s opinions, trying to gain validation from other people based on what they think of us.

Don’t waste all your time thinking about what other people think of you—how they evaluate your looks, actions, plans, activities, etc. Only think and deeply care about what you think.

Instead of thinking about what other people think, think about the positive results you expect, the impact you expect it to make, and all the right things you ought to be doing.

Expect to Change Your Opinions

It may take a short or long time for you to change some of your opinions about different things. It may even take longer! On the other hand, you may not change your opinions altogether, especially if you’re not in accord with obvious reasons why you should change them.

Maybe because most of us are too lazy to get to work and query our opinions, we tend to take the easier path of not wanting to consider some opinions further—talk less of changing them when necessary—so that they don’t become liabilities which they are.

For in many regards, if not all regards, wrong or faulty opinions are liabilities! Quite often, we start a project thinking we know how everything will go, and we meet people every day and assume we know who they are, but we end up finding out that some assumptions prove to be completely and utterly incorrect, and many opinions (initial opinions) are shallow or wrong in the first place.

We have to fight our wrong or shallow opinions the right way

To change our opinion from wrong to right or better, we must fight our preconceptions and biases by considering some angles around our opinions, especially angles that we haven’t explored or considered before.

To get a good or high-quality opinion, we may need to ask ourselves or other people questions: who, why, what, where, when? “Who broke into their office?”, “Why haven’t I thought about this?”, “What makes do it that way?”, “Where did I get it all wrong?”, etc.   

If you cannot get answers for all the questions tied to any opinion, be contented with any answers you get and use them to strengthen or change your opinion about aspects of the opinion that the answers are relevant to.   

We are not as wise or knowledgeable as we think we are

One lesson that life continues to teach is that no one is too young or old to learn something and increase the whole knowledge they have. We learn every day. Even if we don’t, there is always something available to learn every day.

The more we learn, the more we come to understand that we could possibly continue learning for all eternity; therefore, we should never believe that we are actually as wise or loaded as we assume we are. Asking questions and probing will change many or most of our opinions, if not all.

To become wise or wiser, we have to ask and probe when necessary and while in different situations. Asking and probing—without basing opinions on arrogance, mistrust, and any certainty that is not backed by substance—can help to change one’s opinions for the better, especially if they are applied in the right way.

The Value of Being Ruthless to the Things that Don’t Matter

From childhood to adulthood, it usually takes a considerable time or number of years before some people become aware of the fact that certain things just don’t matter and aren’t worth a minute or second of one’s precious time.

Many people have wasted their destinies because they lost time and pace while following the crowd and engaging in greedy desires, pointless heartbreaks, foolish pleasures, and certain types of empty or unnecessary social amusements.

No wonder, after years of indulgence, it finally hit many people hard: they eventually found out how little or nothing of their own was left to them; at long last, they realized they had been digging up their graves before their time!

One of the most difficult things to do in life is to say “no” to certain things

It’s difficult for most people not to follow the crowd. It’s hard for most people to say “no” to the masses: it’s almost impossible for most people to say “no” to invitations, obligations, requests, and stuff that everyone else is indulging in.

It’s even much more difficult to say “no” to time-consuming emotions such as lust, anger, obsession, distraction, excitement, and many unimportant things that are unimportant because they can’t be changed in the future.

Although time-consuming emotions and impulses don’t look like they can be controlled from the outside, they run amok on the inside and make many people become committed to a point of no return.

If you aren’t careful, the things that don’t matter will consume your life

If we focus on things that don’t matter and become sloppy on the road to our destinies, then the things that don’t matter can become our Achilles’ heel and uncalled-for burdens that have the potential to consume or ruin our lives.

So, how can you get some of your valuable time back and put yourself back on track? How can you become more focused and concentrate on what you can change and ignore what you can’t change?

Start by being ruthless and saying “no” to things that don’t matter. You don’t always have to be a yes-man, especially to things that don’t matter. Learn to disagree and say a blunt and outright “no”—as in “no, thank you”, “no, I won’t gain something valuable by being part of that”, “no, I don’t want to get caught up in that”, etc.

Your “No” may turn people off, hurt some feelings, and ruffle some feathers, but the more you continue to say “no” to things that don’t matter, the more it will be easier for you to say “yes” and concentrate on things that matter. In return, this will help you focus on your destiny and enjoy your life—the type of life you desire!

Focussing on What You Can Change & Ignoring What You Can’t Change

The need or desire for change is part of life. Most people want to change almost everything Mother Nature has given them. They aren’t satisfied with many or most conditions in their lives; so they need changes which might even marvel Mother Nature who knows why she bestowed each person with certain abilities and conditions in the first place!

We all are quite aware that it’s impossible to change many things, and it’s easy to want something so bad, even when we’re completely aware that we can’t influence or change situations to get it!

Depending on how eager we are, it could be easy for us to focus on what we can’t change and difficult to focus on what is within our reach, which we can grasp or change.

Time wasted on things we can’t change is equal to time not spent on a number of things—probably many—that we can change or improve in our lives.

In order to have focus and be efficient in life, one should be able to recognize the difference between what they can change and what they can’t change, and focus on what they can change or influence, especially for the better.

If your flight is delayed because of a heavy storm or bad weather, raging over the pilot or storm won’t end the storm or make the weather better. No amount of concern over how tall or short you are, would make you taller or shorter.

Regretting about your country of origin won’t make it possible for you to be reborn in a different country. No matter how much you try, it won’t be possible for everyone to like you to the extent you desire!

A drug addict cannot change the influence of the neighborhood they were exposed to during childhood, nor can they change or undo the bad choices they made or problems they caused months or years ago.

Time spent on shouting and hurling yourself at immovable objects is time not spent on things that are within your control—the things you can change.

Good enough, through the chance and power we have in the present moment, each person can change some things in the future: we can actually control a number of choices we make today.

If we focus on the things that are within our control and ignore the things that are out of our control, we can have more control over our emotions and be happier than people who fail to understand that they are fighting an unwinnable battle by focussing on the things they can’t change.

May we always understand and accept the difference between what we can change and what we can’t change, and may GOD give us the power and serenity to accept the things we can’t change and focus on the things we can change!

You Must Start With an Audience of One Follower Before Growing an Audience of Many Followers

A number of things have to come into play—especially, determination, consistency and longevity—before any blogger and site or domain owner can really amass an audience of many followers within a short or long period of time; regardless, each blogger or site owner must start with an audience of one follower before growing an audience of many followers.

Many people who acquire a domain or start blogging, lack patience, and wrongly assume that an audience of many followers can be amassed within a short time period—especially a few days, weeks, or months, etc.

A lot of bloggers and domain owners even lose determination and give up on blogging/their domains when they haven’t yet acquired a large following or popularized their brand name as fast as possible.

It’s important to note that, when it comes to attracting followers to a blog, site, or domain—usually—you can’t just attract an audience of many followers overnight or out of thin air, and achieve overnight success! You must first start with an audience of one follower before gradually growing an audience of many followers!

If we don’t ignore the phenomenon of gauging a blog’s or site’s success based on the number of followers, we may lose focus of content quality and production longevity which are very important

It’s unfortunate how many bloggers and site owners have been losing their blogs and sites because of the discouragement that surges within them, as a result of their small or stagnant audiences which could have grown after a certain period of time, if they hadn’t given up.

When starting a blog or site, most bloggers and site owners focus too much on the number of followers. If you do the same, especially during the early stages of your blog, and concentrate too much on the number of followers, you could lose long-term focus and be taken completely off course—away from growing a blog or site with many followers.

Usually, most bloggers and site owners base their blog’s or site’s level of success or failure on the number of people who feed off of their content: they tend to value their content and sites only in direct proportion to how small or large their audiences are.

Having this type of mindset can pose a great threat to any efforts we make and lasting impression we hope to make on the internet’s boundless landscape where content quality and quantity and lasting content production hold the most weight at the end of the day.

It’s Never Too Late to Start Living a New Story

Each one of us starts life as a baby, not a grown-up! Moving our bodies bit-by-bit and stretching our thoughts beyond our minds or imagination are the first steps we take in letting go of the baby we were and may have unconsciously thought we may continue to be.

Regardless of the conditions we lived in as babies, we never thought or assumed it was too late to start living a new story. That’s the same mentality we have to apply at any stage or age of life we get to, even if we don’t have full knowledge of the new or final identity that would await us after we start living a new story.

Each one of us becomes who we are by living a new story—here and there—along the way

In the journey of becoming ourselves, we don’t just live a new story once in our lifetime; we continue living a new story a number of times and never complete our overall story. Life is our craft; even at death, none of us actually becomes a master.

We aren’t designed to remain babies and continue living along a path that doesn’t suit our life calling. In many regards, living a new story is better than still living an old story and remaining in an irrelevant or less relevant spot.

Like babies of all animals do, you can and should stretch for the stars: stretch for what is out there where true changes occur, and start living a new story, no matter how scary the path may be.

Although we grow from babies to grown-ups in some areas of life, we still find out that we are babies that have to grow in other areas of life

Life is a process of continuous reinvention that has no end; for it is not fixed! Along the path of life, we are either following our life calling and becoming our true selves, or we are drifting away from our life calling and becoming a fake self.

Life takes us up and down and then up again; however, at different points in time, we usually arrive somewhere with a new set of abilities or skills and, more often than not, we find out that we have to start all over in some other regard or areas of life.

So, in order to continue growing, we must realize that it’s never too late to become who we are, and we must always be willing to start living a new story, especially if we find out that the old story has stopped suiting our life calling.

When living a new story, our priority should be to stretch out like real babies usually do: stretch out and away from what you know, and go in search for things that are new, things that you haven’t yet explored!

In doing so, you will continue to grow, build on who you are, and evolve in your being and outlook about life, without becoming stale in our wealth or fame or whatever you achieve!

Stealing Away Little Time from Each Day can Still Help You Achieve Your Goals

Once we identify our goals and are ready to pursue them with all we’ve got, we have to take practical steps that may even require us to go through some form of “wear and tear” in order to achieve our goals. No matter what you need to do to achieve your goals, you will need time—probably sufficient time!

Some people who have sufficient time usually go all-out to achieve their goals, while some people who aren’t fortunate enough to have sufficient time usually slow down too much or stop moving towards their goals. So, if or when we don’t have sufficient time on our hands, what can we do to keep on covering ground and moving towards our goals?

If we still have our determination intact and on fire, we can still achieve our goals by stealing away a little time from each day and working on our goals while watching them take shape until they become reality.

Often, we think it’s the big steps that achieve immediate goals, but usually, it’s a series of small steps that eventually do the job

Careful observation of every great achievement proves that a series of steps—usually small ones—make up big steps and create great achievements. More often than not, dreams aren’t achieved overnight; they gradually take shape until they are eventually achieved in their entirety.

If you are someone who doesn’t generally have sufficient time, you can still do bits of stuff for some minutes or hours each day—or every day—and eventually end up achieving that big or great goal you so much desire. Never forget the saying: “little drops of water make up the big ocean”.

When you don’t have sufficient time on your hands, find a way to forcefully steal away little time from each day—or every day—and take “small small” steps which, when added together over time, create big steps and help to achieve goals.

Although the effort you make every day may seem small and even insignificant, it adds up over time and produces something great! Surely and eventually, “small small” steps and changes over time create massive results.

You Don’t Have to Assume an Identity Given to You by Other People

We live in a world where it is easier to conform to what people expect of us; we dwell in a sphere of the universe where it is more difficult to do what our heart or life calling expects from us.

We grow up in societies where it is easier to assume an identity given to us by other people; we work in environments where it is more difficult to stick out and stand out from the crowd when necessary.

However, it is important to note that uniqueness and greatness aren’t usually attained by assuming an identity given by other people; a life calling isn’t usually followed in the right way by being a copycat of a lifestyle that belongs to a crowd.

Acquire a self-constructed identity, instead of assuming an identity given by other people

From birth to later years in life, each person acquires an identity, either a self-constructed one or an assumed one: we start from harboring thoughts and believing in an identity until we end up radiating it!

A self-constructed identity is the realest thing we should aim for, even though we may have to pick up one or more things and get ideas from other people before we eventually settle for it—a self-constructed identity.

To truly fit into your life calling, you have to avoid assuming an identity given to you by other people; make up your mind and strive towards eventually becoming a self-constructed identity—the type of identity that can truly befit your life calling’s unique make-up, even if you have to make some changes, when necessary, before becoming that self-constructed identity.

To Follow Your Life Calling, You May Have to Break Certain Rules

Following your life calling may be easier said than done, and in many instances, if you want to follow your life calling, you certainly have to break rules—“the rules”—or the status quo. Usually, it is in this manner that many creative people best unfold their creativity.

To follow your life calling religiously, you don’t always have to remain in familiar territory and just continue doing what is expected of you. At a certain point in time, you have to break rules or deviate from tradition and forge a different or completely new path for yourself.

Many creative people find it difficult to cope in places or systems that require them to follow rules

History has shown that a lot of creative kids and grown-ups are quite impatient with rules which they usually tend to bend or break in order to unleash their creativity as much and as freely as they possibly can. Many creative people don’t see the purpose of following rules that pose a threat to their life calling and make it difficult for them to climb the ladder of success.

Following rules doesn’t always produce brilliant or awesome creative work, and genuinely creative people aren’t always willing to comply with rules that make it more difficult for them to be as truly creative as they wish; so, most times it pays creative people more when they bend or break rules to uplift or make the most out of their creativity.

To unleash your creativity’s full power, you may have to create a different or new path for yourself

Quite often, some people are caught between two or different worlds and aren’t able to reconcile them: they feel they are never quite thorough enough to follow one path and also never quite thorough enough to follow another or other paths.

But, one thing they are certainly sure of is that they need to concentrate thoroughly or completely on one or more paths, instead of remaining in an irreconcilable position and experiencing tension—or even risk.

If you want to leave one path for another or fully concentrate on one path more than another or others—in accordance with your life calling—you need to weigh your options and may certainly have to break some rules.

You may have to break established rules of society or rules of other people—or even rules you’ve imposed yourself—which may state that “you have to always keep doing what you’ve been doing”; “you can’t change your direction during midcareer”; “you can’t just walk away from something”; “you can’t just do this or that”; etc.

No matter what the rules state, you just have to bend or break them. In exchange for following a system of rules or the status quo, you have to create your own path—your life calling—and let go of another path or other paths. You have to forge your own path and wear a new identity.

This means you have to walk away from what people expect of you and what they say you should do; do something better, which is following your life calling in the best way you believe it should be followed.

Following your life calling may inevitably mean that you have to break certain rules: rules of society or rules you’ve imposed on yourself. Regardless of the source of the rules, you will observe that they are always in disharmony with your inner voice, life calling, and creativity; therefore, you have to bend or break them to reach your true destiny.

To Start a New Chapter in Life, We Must Let Go of what is Expected of Us

Sometimes in the journey of a life, the narrative or script we’ve been given, or people’s expectation of us, no longer fits with the type of lifestyle we want to live; it no longer rolls in harmony with our dreams and what we wish to become or achieve!

It’s easy to get confused when we reach such a crossroad where the realization dawns on us that certain rules passed to us—rules that we may be expected to follow—were dictated by someone or people who didn’t actually have our best interest at heart.

When hit with this realization, we can and must do something to change the script or narrative for our own good, especially when we gain conviction about what our respective life calling requires from us. To start a new chapter, we must let go of what someone, people, or society expects of us and do what we expect from ourselves.

We have a choice to stop or start becoming who we want to become

We are at liberty to continue going in the direction of what is expected of us or stop and start becoming what we expect from ourselves, especially when we realize that the path we are on isn’t leading us to where our life calling expects of us.

So, at any point during our life journey, we can enter a different world of possibility and change our future or narrative. Nobody was born as a doctor, writer, artist, or any other type of professional. We become professionals or practitioners of one or more professions. We become something!

I can become the person I want to become and you also can become the person you want to become, even if it means leaving an old identity for a new one, or reverting back to a much older identity. Follow your heart or life calling with conviction.

But you must be careful at the crossroad because any decision can keep you either in line or out of line

When the time for decision-making comes—to continue being who you are or change into what you want to become—you must be careful about what you do next and the choices you make, because they could send you to either a perfect, good, average, or bad path.

Along the journey of life, many people came to realize the fact that what they had been dedicating much of their lives to, was not their actual life calling and not what they wanted to continue doing.

If you’ve had a similar experience, it’s never too late to flip the page. The best thing to do is start a new chapter by completely letting go of what someone, people, or society expects from you, and start doing only what you expect from yourself!

The Best Product You can Offer the World is Your Gifts, Abilities, or Talents

Regardless of your position in life, you have something valuable to offer the world around you, even much more than you might have ever realized! History has ample evidence to show that many people who were in a similar position to yours and had your gifts, talents, or abilities, offered a lot to the world. They changed many lives and even the whole human race.

So, it’s crucial that we all try our best to offer the utmost we possibly can with our gifts, talents, or abilities, even if we can do so by offering for free without expecting anything in return. If we live by the rule of giving without expecting, we will eventually discover that money and other material blessings will locate us without any need for us to pursue them.

In today’s world, money and finance are usually given in exchange for people’s gifts, talents, or abilities which are invaluable and hence the best products that can be offered or sold to the world. The best way to achieve financial fulfilment is by offering your gifts, talents, or abilities!

Even your accumulated experiences can be of great value to other people

The experiences you’ve accumulated during the course of your life can be of great value to other people, even if you think those experiences are worthless. Maybe, because you grew up in negative circumstances and were lonely and unloved or had to endure difficult hardships, you don’t really value your experiences.

Nevertheless, your past—and probably present difficulties—and the priceless lessons you learned from them can be of great value and provide guidance to other people who have gone through or are going through the same or similar harsh conditions. You have experiences that no one else has or has ever had, and nobody else has lived your exact type of life.

The world has a lot to gain from the priceless experiences of your hardships, mistakes, and successes; it has a lot to gain from the totality of your life experiences, regardless of what they are. Sharing your tragedies, hardships, mistakes, and missteps can provide a lot of invaluable insight and help many other people by making them see things from a completely different and relevant perspective.

Don’t bury the gifts, talents, abilities, and experiences that GOD has deposited in you

By using your gifts, talents, abilities, and experiences to serve the people and world around you, you could eventually become famous and very successful: by going all out to discover people’s problems and help those who are hurting and needy, the universe can give you much more than you’ve ever dreamed of achieving.

But, you must live up to GOD and your life calling’s expectations; if you don’t eventually use your gifts, talents, abilities, or experiences to serve other people and uplift them, you would likely live a shallow life regardless of how successful you become according to the world’s definition or standards of success.

You Become Great by Discovering other People’s Problems & Finding Solutions

People become great and famous in the world because of discovering other people’s problems and finding solutions for them. The most trusted way to become great is by serving people—by proffering and providing solutions to their problems.

Due to the imperfection in our humanity, we have the tendency to be constrained or bound within limits and not become great when we evade our true calling which lies in serving each other.

Many people and professions have become very popular because they’ve been focussing on and addressing people’s needs, thereby revealing their true calling just by providing solutions to people’s problems.

To become great, build your life around the principle of loving other people, regardless of who they are

Serving people means solving their problems. The more services you offer, the greater or more popular you become. If you build your activities on the principle of loving other people and serving them, then success and greatness will naturally follow you in life.

If you serve a few people, only a few people will know you, but if you serve many people, many people will know you; therein lies the difference between successful people and great people, and the difference between different levels of success and impact.

The person who serves a few or lesser number of people is successful, but the person who serves many or a greater number of people is more than merely successful—that person is great because of the impact they have on a greater number of people.

There are unlimited ways to help people and become great: everything the world needs lies in everybody’s hands

There are limitless ways you can use to solve people’s problems and earn love and reverence and become great. If you serve without expecting anything in return, the universe will reward you much greater than anybody could.  

But before you can help people by offering your services, knowledge, or experience, you, first of all, have to find out what people need; once you do that, then you’ll be able to know the particular type of service, knowledge, or experience you can offer, and proceed to offer it.

Successful and great people are consistently looking for problems to solve and people whom they can offer services and wisdom in order to solve their problems. If you use your gifts, talents, or abilities to help people, the Creator of the universe will send spiritual and material blessings your way.

How to Identify Your Life Calling

If we observe the lives of many people, especially those who have made a great impact in the world, it will be easy to agree and conclude that each person has a life calling that has been designed to meet GOD’s or Mother Nature’s expectations in significant ways.

But, how can you know or identify your life calling? What steps can you take to discover your life calling, especially if you have a predominantly negative mindset or you’re surrounded by circumstances that could make it difficult or impossible for you to know or identify your life calling or GOD’s plan for your life?

The first step is to examine your talents and abilities

The first step to identify or find your calling is to look at your heart and carefully examine all the talents and abilities you have at your disposal. Your gift(s) and calling are linked to your abilities and talents which lie within you. Take a close look within your heart because your calling actually lies right there, not outside.

Everything that GOD created has a seed within itself; each creature bears fruit or seed according to its life calling, according to its own kind. You have talents and abilities within you; they can help you produce fruit in accordance with your life calling, and make you great.

The second step is to take note of activities you’re attracted to

The second step to identify your life calling is to take note of the activities you are attracted to; evaluate the things that bring out the best in you, while giving you fulfilment or satisfaction at the same time! When noticing the activities you’re attracted to, you may be surprised to discover that your present job or occupation is not actually your life calling.

More often than not, many people’s hobbies are actually their life calling because hobbies are tightly linked to interests, gifts, or talents which are capable of bringing out the best and utmost happiness and fulfilment, if properly utilized.

Each person has abilities that can be used to carry out the most meaningful activities and achieve greatness or become famous and even rich. In fact, certain talents and activities can bring an individual before leaders, presidents, kings, and the world’s most important and influential people.

Remark: your life calling was designed to meet people’s needs

Regardless of your occupation, you can serve people by using your life calling in some capacity. By noting your gifts and identifying your life calling, you can easily establish your purpose in life and use your gifts to help people handle their challenges and meet their needs, and make the world a much better place. And while providing one form of service or another, Mother Nature can compensate you with money, wealth, and different types of material blessings.

GOD Usually Starts at the Bottom, Not the Top

One of the greatest lessons I have learned from the extraordinary achievements of many people who found their life calling is that GOD usually starts working at the bottom, instead of the top in people’s lives.

If we aren’t yet at the top but want to make it to the top, then we have to start serving with the least we have and start serving the least people whom many consider to be the least important and least valuable in life.

In case you were born at a bottom or very low position in life, don’t be discouraged! You’re destined to be happy and great if your lifestyle is in harmony with GOD’s will and you obey His laws as He expects.

The fact that you are at the bottom doesn’t mean it’s not part of GOD’s divine scheme

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; before you were born I sanctified you…”—Jeremiah. 1: 5 (The Christian Bible); therefore, contrary to what many people believe, none of us were born by chance, and GOD planned all the events in our lives before we were born.

So if you were at the “bottom” of the ladder or are still at the bottom, your situation is in complete accord with GOD’s divine scheme which has all answers to questions you may be asking in regard to why, what, when, who and where.

GOD is in control of anything that is in accordance with his will, and He has reasons, plans, and purposes for your situation, even if it is at the bottom or bottommost level you’ve ever experienced.

You might not have a father, a mother, brothers, sisters, or anyone to help and elevate you, and everything might be stacked against you and has made you believe you will remain at the bottom and never realize there is a reason for your existence.

But it doesn’t matter whether you’re really at the bottom because that’s exactly where GOD usually starts from, instead of the top where most people think that GOD should start from.

GOD’s plans are perfect

You might be unhappy and unfulfilled as a result of being at the bottom, but never forget that GOD plans everything perfectly and doesn’t make accidents; so He understands why you have to experience that bottom level in order to get to the top level in the best shape possible.

The apostle Paul couldn’t have put these inspiring words together any better when he said: “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love GOD, to those who are called according to His purpose”—Romans 8: 28 (The Christian Bible).

Before you were born, GOD had planned that your life’s bottom and top scenarios would all work for good; as a result, you came into this world to eventually hit top form even though you might have been at the bottom for the greater part of your life.

GOD has definite plans for you to be great

Although GOD has plans for you to be great, it must not be interpreted that GOD plans for you to be great in the worldly sense—according to the material or worldly meaning of being great—which usually implies having great possessions of numerous expensive cars and houses or mansions, and attracting attention from all over the world.

You can actually be great at whatever you do without attracting attention from all over the world and being in possession of numerous expensive cars and houses: you can be a great teacher, a great writer, a great doctor, a great athlete, a great cook, a great dad, a great mum, a great neighbor, etc.

You may never become a world leader or the president of your country, but you can be great in your calling with the abilities and talents GOD bestowed on you, even though you may find yourself at the bottom which you will eventually come to realize is a temporary position that was put in place for a great purpose.

Thank GOD You Lack Something: Lack Makes Us Dig Deeper & Become Greater

If you believe in GOD and abide by His laws, then it would be appropriate to thank Him in every situation. Sometimes, GOD allows us to lack some important things and have challenges in order to teach us lasting material and spiritual lessons, and explore new territories and fulfil certain purposes in our lives.

Therefore, thank GOD for your discontentment and lack of visible talents because He can help you accomplish your calling and purpose in life by using the aforementioned issues to unleash the latent talents that are lying idle within you.

Thank GOD you lack that thing you desire so much because He can use the situation as a powerful tool to make you discover new ideas and uncover the hidden unlimited potentials and abilities you never thought you had.

Problems and the lack of many things have pushed and motivated mankind to find many solutions. For instance, the stress of travelling over long distances pushed and motivated people to design cars, trains, and planes which can travel across land and over rivers and oceans. And the absence of light, especially in dark places or at night, pushed and motivated Thomas Edison to invent the electric bulb.

GOD can use your lack of something to strengthen your relationship with Him or make you become greater

It might be true that you lack important things in your life; however, these issues are the conditions that GOD will use to carry out His wise plans for you and take you to an unexpected but promising end. Thank GOD you lack something because that’s what will push you to trust Him more and enhance your faith in the unseen or invisible realities he has in store for you.

A weightlifter—who lacks a certain amount of strength and level of endurance—lifts weights in order to increase their endurance limit and strengthen their muscles. The same applies to your spiritual growth and path to acquiring higher abilities and talents.

Therefore, thank GOD because your lack of something can make you slow down and build your relationship with GOD and establish yourself more solidly in Him; also, your lack of something can increase your faith and make you materialize those real things that are not yet physically visible.

We Progress by Being Dissatisfied with Our Current Level of Progress

Wouldn’t you like to make more progress? If yes, then you have to always be dissatisfied with your current level of progress in life, no matter how high or low it is. To make the utmost use of dissatisfaction over your current level of progress, never be satisfied with your current achievements, and always assume or that your current level of progress can rise higher than it is.

Coupled with satisfaction, procrastination also impedes or halts progress. A popular adage says, “Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today”. This adage is great advice against procrastination. Some people don’t progress because they postpone things which they should be doing at the moment. The urge to postpone any important thing will hardly arise if we are highly dissatisfied with our current level of progress.

We prepare a recipe for disaster by putting things off until tomorrow when they can be easily done today. By making a habit of pushing things into the future, we fail, and may even fail many times over! Hence, we need to discipline ourselves and be more demanding of ourselves in order to be dissatisfied enough to get things done on time.

Dissatisfaction can help avoid procrastination

If you are always satisfied with your current achievements in life, then it would be easy to become complacent and a procrastinator. But if you’re always dissatisfied with your current level of progress, then you will develop a drive that can compel you to consistently look for ways to move forward and seek new things to achieve.

As long as you continue to believe in yourself and remain dissatisfied enough to strive for more accomplishments, then there would be no end in sight for your level of progress, and greater achievements and success would likely become your permanent companion. Only those individuals who are never satisfied with their current level make consistent progress in life.

Never assume that you’ve achieved everything; there’s always room to progress higher

The extent of your possibilities has no limits and can continue to expand in proportion to the new things you are willing to explore. Therefore, don’t rest on your laurels and never assume that you’ve attained perfection or reached the highest level of progress. If you continue working hard to expand your horizons, there would be no limits to your rising level of progress.

On the other hand, if you assume that you’ve achieved everything, idleness will creep in instead of progress, and you may end up robbing yourself of more blessings and higher levels of progress or achievements. Maintain a strong work ethic and continue moving forward in order to release more of your potentials, talents, and abilities from the spiritual world into this physical world.

Without Knowledge or Preparation, Zeal Could Lead to Failure

One of the reasons why some zealous or enthusiastic people fail to fulfil their calling is because they lack knowledge or preparation. Dr. James Dobson once said: “Enthusiasm is no substitute for preparation”. Proverbs 19: 2 (NIV, The Christian Bible) states: “It is not good to have zeal without knowledge, nor to be hasty and miss the way”.

Knowledge and preparation, which are important components in the formula for success, are often overlooked by some people, especially when they attempt to get overnight results. As a result, many people fail due to lack of knowledge or preparation.

To be Called is not Enough; Become Your Calling

Whichever area of aspect of life you feel that your calling lies, you have to spend time to acquire knowledge about it in order to become prepared and succeed; therefore, you may have to go to the library, read books, search the Internet, study under a teacher or mentor, and put in a little or lot effort to get much information about the subject of your interest.

Acquiring thorough knowledge about a subject or discipline will get you prepared and help you avoid failure

Many people want quick and cheap success without putting in work to prepare themselves. You will save yourself a ton of precious time and effort and make it easier to progress and achieve success if you gather as much knowledge as possible.

But if you lack knowledge and aren’t prepared to bend down and get knowledge about a subject, you will likely stumble around most of the time and constantly make mistakes, especially costly ones.

Consider the lives of many successful people whose life calling directed them to become medical doctors, pilots, lawyers, sportspeople, etc. They had to use up a lot of hours, days, months and years to train hard, study hard, or write many examinations.

The more time you spend acquiring knowledge and preparing for your calling, the more success you will experience

A lot of unnecessary challenges and heartaches will be avoided if you make up your mind to put in work or work hard and prepare yourself for whatever life endeavor you desire to engage in.

It’s about time you add knowledge and preparation to your zeal or enthusiasm and make it easier to succeed as you create your own destiny. Take your destiny into your own hands, even if it means avoiding too much leisure, teaching yourself, working as hard as you can, and doing the utmost to gain success.

To follow your life calling or achieve success can be challenging; however, you won’t be able to succeed without getting rid of challenges, barriers, and obstacles which can be eliminated if you acquire thorough knowledge and get prepared for the demands of your calling.

Trusting in GOD May Require Taking Risks, but it Conquers the Unknown

Sometimes, we don’t carry out our plans and realize our dreams because fear paralyzes us and makes us not take risks. Most people avoid any path that would require them to take risks. Usually, we avoid taking risks because want to feel comfortable and be a hundred percent sure that everything would go according to our own “logical” plans.

But things don’t always work according to “logical” plans, even when we feel comfortable and are a hundred percent sure that they would work out as planned. This is one of the main reasons why we need to always trust in GOD or have faith in His power which created and controls everything that is visible and invisible.

Trusting or having faith in GOD may sometimes require us to take risks because we aren’t always able to see as far and wide as GOD sees; nevertheless, trusting in GOD or having faith in Him is a positive step that surely brings great results at the end of the day.

Most people are scared of taking a leap of faith and trusting in GOD, but trusting in GOD conquers the unknown

It’s unfortunate that for various reasons most people are scared of putting their trust in GOD. And although it is true that from a human perspective, having faith in GOD sometimes involves a certain degree of risk, it is equally true that trusting in GOD’s plan and timing is a wise decision that can help us conquer the unknown.

Any risk associated with having faith or trusting in GOD is not a risk; it is an added advantage

History and faith both inform us that GOD works wonders and uses risks, challenges, and problems to achieve great results. Therefore, even if you are facing a situation that compels you to take a “safe” route, remember that it is only GOD Who can give a 100% guarantee that a safe route is not risky; He is the only one Who can guarantee that a safe route is actually safe and will lead to the desired destination.

Trusting in GOD requires that we live according to His laws

We must abide by GOD’s laws all the time, not only when we are trusting in Him for something. And we must live a righteous lifestyle according to GOD’s expectations, not according to the world’s expectations which are almost always different from GOD’s expectations.

It is understandable that because we are human, we are imperfect and will likely make mistakes, whether we take risks or not; however, living a righteous life will guard us against permanent failure. Proverbs 24: 16 (The Christian Bible) states: “For though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again, but the wicked are brought down by calamity”.

Therefore, regardless of whether the righteous take risks or don’t take risks, their trust in GOD will always attract His guidance and ensure that they are taken up from the ground, no matter how many times they fall.

On the other hand, although it the unrighteous may continue getting what they want for long stretches of time, they will eventually be brought down by calamity because GOD’s laws will catch up with them at the end of the day.

Don’t be afraid of taking risks and making mistakes; our missteps and failures are temporary

Trust in GOD and always remember that whenever you fall down, GOD will always raise you up. Therefore don’t be afraid of taking risks and making mistakes; always put your trust in GOD and His timing which is always on time.

Be ready to take risks when certain opportunities come, and never ever forget that your faith or trust in GOD is a step that will enable you to conquer the unknown. Trusting in GOD can turn an unfavorable today into an advantageous tomorrow, and turn an awful today into a happy tomorrow.

Trust in GOD by fixing your eyes on what is unseen, not on what is seen

Hebrews 11: 1 (The Christian Bible) states: “…without faith it is impossible to please GOD; for anyone who comes to GOD must believe that He exists…”; and 2nd Corinthians 4: 18 (The Christian Bible) states: “…look not on the things that are seen, but on the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are temporary, but the things that are unseen are eternal”.

These two scriptures encourage us to have faith or put our trust in GOD, not in man and material things which are temporal; the second scripture encourages us to believe that the desires and things we cannot see now, are permanently there for us and can be achieved in the future.

The GOD Whom we trust is invisible and almighty and all the seen and unseen things are in His hands. Therefore put your full trust in Him and do what is in your power to do, whether it involves taking risks or not taking risks; thereafter, leave your best efforts in GOD’s hands and let Him dictate the outcome.

The Almighty GOD Sees Your Situation; He Knows what You Don’t Know

No matter how many times you have failed despite the numerous attempts you’ve made to succeed, and no matter where you come from or what your discouraging situation is, you still have a chance to succeed because the Almighty GOD and Heavenly Father holds the key to your future.

So, despite your predicaments, if you really have faith or belief in the Almighty GOD, then you still have quite enough to realize your dreams! Apart from you and Him, nobody else can completely alter your destiny or future, and no one else can thwart the purpose he had designed for you before you were born.

It is by the hand of the Almighty GOD that many people—despite their upbringing and unfortunate circumstance—have had wonderful rags-to-riches stories imprinted upon the memory of mankind and world history; yours could just be another one that would be added in the future if you believe that He has the best plans for you.

Small or pathetic beginnings should not discourage us

It’s possible that because you are parentless, lack resources, come from an unfavorable country, etc., you have utter disbelief about how the Almighty GOD would make your dreams come to pass.

But, note that the Almighty GOD knows what you don’t know: His ways are different from yours and ours; for ages, He has been showing mankind that big achievements come from small or pathetic beginnings.

The Almighty GOD is fond of guiding people from little positions to greater or greater ones—even up to the greatest ones! Therefore, always remember that He is in control of every situation and everything at any point in your life, and if we put our little belief in Him today, He will work wonders with it and in our lives tomorrow.

Don’t despise small beginnings or situations

For everything that exists started from being a small entity; it is after this pattern that the power of the Almighty GOD has been expressing itself mightily and beyond human understanding.

It is through the process of growing from small to big or great, that His power shows itself more clearly, especially in pathetic situations. If anyone is actually living a righteous life in the eyes of the Almighty GOD, then failure wouldn’t depend on negative situations or the absence of some things; it would only depend on disbelief or lack of faith in Him.

For this reason, whenever we face problems, we should believe that the Almighty GOD always has solutions to our problems, and He can provide us with everything we need to tackle our problems and reach our destiny.

It is a huge plus to realize that the Almighty GOD knows what we don’t know. It is also a huge plus to realize that our belief in the Almighty GOD, and the right attitude about our small, unfavorable, or pathetic situations will turn our minus into a big plus. But we need to be in control of our emotions by trusting the Almighty GOD!